Everything used to be so easy. Loving, trusting, letting go, being strong. You were such a happy person, who never let anything steal your shine. You look back now and wonder what changed. Why is everything that used to come naturally so hard now? Someone you took pride in being happy.
You had your heart broken.
Some asshole came along and loved you just long enough to reel you in, and then let you go.
Your pride took such a hard hit, you’ve been struggling to make a comeback. Now you’re skeptical of everything, you don’t know who you can trust.
You’re scared to love, scared to give your all, busy building those walls up as high as you can to protect your heart. You focus so much now on becoming the person that you “used to be,” that you don’t even realize that you still are that person.
You’re still strong.
Your heart, though it now has scars, is nothing less than precious.
Though you wish you never allowed him to hurt you, it was actually a blessing in disguise.
Pain, it comes to us in the worst of ways, but it builds our character. It feels like it’s making you weak, but in reality, it’s making you stronger.
These situations come along to teach us a lesson, to show us that no matter what life throws at us, we can handle it.
And you do.
You learn that people treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. You learn the way that sometimes you will come across shitty people, and because of this, you are able to detect a red flag from a mile away.
You learn to use the hurt, the pain, and the heartbreak to become a better person.
You learn that your history does not define you and that you can handle anything and still come out on top.
You are still beautiful, still smart, still amazing.
The person that you “used to be” no longer exists, and that’s a good thing.
You are where you are for a reason. And like a plant, just a seed, to begin with, you needed both the sunshine and the rain in order to blossom into the beautiful, unique, colorful, flower that you are.
Spend less time focusing on who you used to be and spend more time living.
You have plenty more to grow.
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