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To those who need to forgive themselves

"In order to heal we must first forgive… and sometimes the person we must forgive is ourselves." – Mila Bron

I think most of us can agree that love is the strongest currency of all. Whether it is from friends, family, or significant others, love makes the world a better place. We also love giving love. It feels good to care about someone, and celebrate them. But can you imagine how happy we would be if we loved ourselves as much as we love others?

Forgiving yourself is the best thing you can do. 

Self-love is the most healthy and important thing we can do in our lives. Yes, we mess up. Yes, we make mistakes. Yes, we unintentionally hurt others. This is life, and everyone does it. The first step to making things right again is to forgive ourselves.

Stop keeping track of the mistakes you made. 

If you keep a roster of every mistake you make, you will live a miserable life. Regrets are unnecessary. What is important is trying to make things right, forgiving yourself, and moving forward. We are human. We will mess up. It is inevitable. 

You deserve to forgive yourself. 

You are enough. Let me repeat that so it goes through and sticks. You. Are. Enough. You are worthy of your own affection. In fact, you deserve it and you owe it to yourself. I know that life is hard and mistakes happen. Stop feeling guilty, stop beating yourself up, and stop feeling like you deserve the emotional pain you are feeling. It is time to let it go. You may have known the mistakes you were making, and you may not have. But it is time to forgive yourself, learn from the past, and move on. Life is a beautiful gift and the best part is that there is brighter days ahead and ways to improve your bad days. 

Mistakes build character. 

Think about this; if you didn't make mistakes, you wouldn't know any better. There is a saying that you have to be young and stupid to grow old and wise. This is the same thing. You have to make mistakes to know better in the future. Of course you can learn from other's mistakes, but you're going to make your own in life as well. Embrace it, take what you can learn from it, and know better next time. 

"Self-love is complete forgiveness, acceptance and respect for who you are deep down – all your beautiful and hideous parts included." – Aletheia Luna

All my love, 

Deseree