I don't know who's to blame for creating a generation of over-thinkers, but I blame...someone. I think. Maybe it's 'cause we're overly sensitive and wicked smart? Could that be why we're so introspective? But whatever - we cool, we cool.
If you're an over-thinker you might relate to and understand at least one of these things:
- When we say "we’re sorry," we mean we're really sorry. If we feel like we’ve hurt your feelings, what you didn’t see is the hours we spent going over every single detail of our fight. Seriously, rest assured knowing that whether you accept our apology or not, this will not soon be forgotten.
- We’re not insecure control freaks, we just think. A lot. I mean you don’t have to call us back right away when you’re out, but just know that our mind is playing out a bunch of horrible scenarios in which you’ve cheated. Or died. That’s right, if we reach your voicemail, we can’t help but consider that you might not be alive.
- Our critical thinking skills are pretty on point. Seriously, we have mastered the art of interpreting what people really mean by what they say.
- But our friends don't seem to appreciate our analytical ninja skills. They end up saying “you are so over-thinking this I can’t even,��? when we proudly tell them that we’ve figured out what something really meant.
- Sleep is probably the most difficult aspect of our lives. Laying silently in the dark without any distraction inevitably makes us sink into our racing thoughts.
- God forbid someone unfollows us on Instagram or unfriends us on Facebook. We won’t rest until we figure out who it was and why.
- We delete texts, hesitate over writing emails and Facebook messages, delete and re-write tweets. All because we could and should have said something other than what we did. It takes us forever to write an important message. Okay, basically any message.
- When we go out we can be the life of the party - if the party is authentic and exciting (and has enough alcohol), we can live in the moment. Until the hangover. The next morning we are left in fear of what we could have said to that one person we'd rather die than act like an idiot in front of.
- Of course, any pain in our body leads to us imagining the worst case scenario. We need someone to talk us off the ledge, and tell us they've experienced a pain similar to the one we're describing.
- We can’t let things go easily. We’re convinced that if we run over the details of a few more times, it will somehow change the outcome and we will uncover some new understanding of the situation.
- We send a lot of screenshots of stuff…and evocative details. We need second opinions.
- We actually enjoy a break from our heads. If someone takes us somewhere stimulating enough that we won't have to be mind-numbingly introspective for once, we’ll love them forever. Well, you know.
- What did they mean by “I'll see you soon"? What does “soon"? mean? Like soon soon? Or "soon"? We like when someone makes our lives a little less complicated and tells us straight up what they mean. I mean, we’ll probably spin it to mean something more, anyways, but it's still nice.
- If we meet someone that makes us live in the moment, we'll hang on to them for life. Or as long as we possibly can.
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