Nobody said growing up would be easy. And they damn sure didn't prepare us for all the shit the world was going to throw our way.
But when things get hard, we just need to remember a few simple things to make the travels of life a little less bumpy. Things that'll help us survive when we're feeling like our entire life is falling apart in front of us....
1. You won't have all the answers.
Life is tricky. And shit will happen that'll leave you wondering, "Why?!" You don't have the answers or all the solutions to fix everything. Take a deep breath and make that problem, whatever it may be, your bitch.
2. Mistakes are a part of life.
You're human. We're all human. We all fuck up. It is okay to fuck up. It's part of the learning process. Accept it, process it, learn from it, grow from it, and move on.
3. Everyone feels alone at times.
You're gonna get overwhelmed with everything all at once and get discouraged. You're gonna feel like no one understands or cares. You're gonna feel like we have nothing or nobody. Don't worry, it happens to the best of us. It will pass.
4. You're going to have breakdowns.
Shit is gonna get bad. Probably get to be too much. Piling up until it's too much to bear and you explode into a crying, helpless mess. Don't think you're weak because of it, we all have emotional breakdowns. It's good to let it out.
5. It's not just you...we all ask ourselves, "What the fuck am I even doing?" at least 40 times a day.
Expect to feel lost and confused. Like you have no direction. You're going to feel like you're just running in circles and going nowhere fast. You'll wonder what the hell you're doing with your life, and when, or if, you're ever going to figure it out. Don't stress, you have plenty of time to figure yourself and life out.
6. Who you are will change over time.
Growing up means changes. Changes related to yourself, your life, your thoughts, your character traits, and sometimes your feelings. It's not a bad thing. Just make sure those changes are for the better and make you happy.
7. It's okay to cut people out of your life.
As you move forward, you're going to find out who's really there for the long haul. Who's actually good. You might have to cut out the toxic people who bring you down in order for you to better yourself.
Don't think of it as being a mean person. You're simply wiping yourself clean of negativeness. People come into your life as either a lesson or a blessing. It's up to you to figure out which is which with those people.
8. All kinds of different challenges are going to come your way.
Those challenges might be amazing, difficult, heartbreaking, mind blowing, confusing, or plain just crazy. It's how you tackle those challenges that defines you as a person.
9. You're going to get hurt.
We all have feelings and we all get hurt at one point or another. Whether it's by another person's actions or words, a situation, a disaster, or ourselves, it's gonna suck. It's gonna hurt. But it's going to be okay. It may seem like it's the end of the world, but it's not. You'll survive and you'll come out stronger.
10. Actions speak louder than words.
It doesn't matter if the words are spoken by you or someone else, always stop and think if those words are being backed by actions. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
11. Not everyone is going to be the same.
And that's okay. Everyone has different thoughts, opinions, and personalities. Don't hate on them or yourself for being different. It's okay to be unique. It's okay to be yourself. Stand out, and stand proud. No matter what, you are allowed to be who you want to be. Own that shit.
12. We all have our own struggles.
Don't be so harsh to judge or assume. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors or what another has been through. Everyone's stories are still being written, so start putting yourself in someone else's shoes and don't be so quick to jump to conclusions.
13. You're in charge of your own destiny.
Don't let worries, fears, or anyone stop you from living the life you want and deserve. You're in charge of yourself and your life. Take control and run with it however you choose.
14. You deserve to be happy.
Nobody determines your happiness. Only you do. If something or someone is cock blocking your happiness, change it. You're the only person in charge of your happiness, don't let anything try to take that from you.
15. There will be hard decisions to be made.
You're going to find out things about yourself. You're going to have to make decisions, good and bad, that will help you see the things about yourself that you like and don't like. It's tough, but it's going to help you find the person we want to be.
16. It'll get hard to love yourself sometimes.
It's inevitable. You're going to question if you're good enough. If you're worth something. You're going to have days of self-doubt. It's normal to have those thoughts and get all in your feelings. But don't throw a pity party. You get 5 minutes of emotional time. Then you get it together and be the bad ass you know you are.
17. Some days, you're going to feel like a failure.
That shit will never change. You'll always ask yourself if you could have done more, said less, loved harder. It's life. You're gonna say and do things and mess up. Don't feel dumb, or like you have failed. Pick yourself back up and brush your shoulders off.
18. You're going to get scared and try to run.
We all face scary shit. And the initial reaction is to do the only thing we've always know how to do. The thing we do best. Which is run. You're not 16 anymore. Face that shit head on like a mature adult and handle it.
19. You'll realize what your parents meant when they said, "One day you'll understand."
Growing up, they always told us we'd understand when we got older when we questioned their decisions. Their reasons and logic didn't make sense then, but now they're blatantly obvious.
20. You're going to have bad days.
Don't let that day control you. Don't let it consume you or your life. It was just shitty timing, shitty circumstances, and shitty situations. It's not like your life is over. You got this. Don't dwell on the things you can't change.
21. You'll to learn to enjoy the good things in your life instead of taking them for granted.
If everything in life was just all peachy and wonderful, we'd be setting ourselves up for failure, disbelief, and disappointment by always expecting it.
The bad times and bad experiences let us be appreciative and grateful for the good times, the good things, and the amazing experiences when they happen.
22. You'll learn to love yourself.
When you stop feeling sorry for yourself and stop drowning in a pool of self-pity, you're going to realize the person you are is more than enough. And you're going to realize you can't please everyone.
That's when it finally clicks. You start to not give a fuck what anyone thinks about you because you don't have time to care if they like you or not.
23. You're not always going to be right.
Which is perfectly fine. The world doesn't revolve around you. You're not the only one who matters. Listen to everyone and keep an open mind.
24. You don't always have to be so strong all the damn time.
It's 100% okay to cry. To show people you care. To love someone besides yourself. It's fine to show vulnerability. Swallowing your pride to admit you're wrong isn't a bad thing.
It's perfectly acceptable to ask for help, advice, or to ask questions. Don't be so wrapped up in looking "tough" that you lose people you care about.