Optimism is key. Most girls want to find the person they can just sit next to and have deep conversations or a light-hearted laughing session with about all the ridiculous things they’ve been through in life.
They want to look across the dinner table and see someone they care about so deeply it scares them.They want the one who kisses them with real passion and knows perfectly, exactly what to do to get them going - Like every romantic movie that has ever been created.
You’ll be hard pressed to find a girl who doesn’t want that every day of their lives.
But while in the depths of heartbreak, I came to realize how much I should appreciate this single me-time and use it to grow as a person.
I can quite literally do whatever the f*ck I want. Whenever I want.
Granted as long as it is legal. But, hot guy at the bar? Dibs. The guy making me cry from laughter? Let’s be best friends. Drink all night and drunkenly dance on the bar? Hell yeah!
For this small period of time between being an adult and beyond my parent’s control and settling down to start my own family, I’m free to have as much fun and get as crazy as I want. Or I can straight up be a homebody and hermit all weekend.
It’s nobody’s decision but mine.
I know somewhere down the road, I will get to wake up every morning right next to my best friend. I will get the deep conversations, light-hearted laughs, and passionate kisses every day of my life for the rest of my life.
Every day I will get to feel the love of someone I care so much about, that I was willing to give up a tiny portion of my freedom in order to be their forever.
I know this will be my future. I don't want to settle or rush into something just because I want to feel that intense love more than I ever feel it now.
And while it sometimes gets hard to believe that and not give into how I'm feeling in the moment, I just have to remind myself that patience is a virtue and that this time will come.
I want a guy who's seen the world and experienced so many things he can tell me stories for days, years, forevers. A guy who wants to see the rest of the world with me and experience things that only two people together can experience.
I want to hear stories that make their eyes light up and hear about all of the adventures they’ve been on. I want to hear about where they want to go and be able to go with them.
To be able to share my passions and desires, and be able to check those off my bucket list with them by my side.
I want someone who has seen things that have changed their life, whether good or bad. Someone who has taken the time to grow themselves, not waiting around for someone to force them to.
I want to continue growing with someone even if that means finding them tomorrow or a few years down the road.
Because like they say, everything gets better with age.
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