Girls can tolerate a lot of crap in a relationship. Because let’s be honest, guys can be a real pain sometimes.
But there are certain things guys do that don’t deserve our tolerance because it’s straight up disrespectful.
And sometimes, our hearts will love him with everything they’ve got, but our minds won’t allow us to ignore the signs that he’s not up to par with what we deserve.
He makes you feel like you’re doing everything wrong.
It’s little things though like a really? Or an oh… in the middle of a conversation that hit you harder than a brick wall. It’s something about not being able to understand another person’s point of view that makes him judgey.
If he could make all your decisions for you, he would, and maybe then he’d be more accepting of the life you live.
You feel alone even when he’s sitting right next to you.
When something is bothering you, you don’t feel safe enough to go to him to talk about it. He doesn’t make you feel comfortable and able to be vulnerable in front of him.
Instead, you face all your demons on your own, which only makes you feel emptier than ever. There should be no doubting them or their capability to offer emotional support.
There should be no second-guessing their trust or faithfulness. You should feel like you have the freedom to "bother" them with your problems at any time, any day.
You feel hyper conscious of your flaws because he's always quick to point them out.
And not in an “I’m trying to help you grow” way. He says things like “you still have that pimple” and “why would you say that?” and “why the fuck did you do that?”
He’s not trying to make you into a better person, he’s trying to tear you down. You shouldn't feel burdened by your flaws, mistakes or past.You deserve to be treated with respect no matter what.
Your heart is heavy with caring so much and him caring so little.
He can take his anger out on you, go out without telling you, live his life without a filter but the second you do it’s world war three.
He doesn’t realize that his actions affect you, he doesn’t understand that his words sit heavy on your heart. And honestly, he probably doesn’t care. It’s not his problem.
You deserve better than someone who doesn't care about their decisions. Just like there are consequences in life when you're reckless, there are consequences in relationships.
You feel emotionally drained after spending long periods of time with him.
Maybe it’s an urgency when you’re with him that you have to be perfect, maybe you’re hyper critical of yourself when he’s around, or maybe you’re spending too much time wondering what he’s thinking.
Either way, it’s absolutely exhausting. The only emotion you should be feeling after being with him is sad because you should miss the one you’re with. Not feel relieved.