We often find ourselves at multiple times in our life feeling stuck in one place leaving us to wonder how on earth we are going to get through the week, or how to get a tight grip on that first greasy rung of the ladder. We have no idea who we are, what we are doing or where this rabbit hole will go. These feelings of worry can lead us to become unmotivated, crawling to the comfort of our beds in hopes that tomorrow will be a better day.
Luckily, there is no real reason to panic. Knowing that you are not an expert at this game called “life” is a good indictor that your chips are lined up correctly. With a few tweaks, you’ll be sliding into home plate soon enough.
Know exactly where you are:
To figure out where this train is headed and where you want to be going, you need to know where it came from. Take a moment to trace back where your journey began and see how far you have come. Not knowing exactly where you are is a good opportunity to pull out your map and find the “you are here” sign.
Learn to let go:
Whether it be physical or emotional - there is not a single person who has gotten to where they are without having a few battle scars to show for it. Every event you have gone through has shaped your identity in some sort of way that in turn has helped you become the person you are today; this has also left you with some additional baggage that is difficult to let go of. All the arguments, grudges, and fights are in the past and if you let them weigh you down, they will prevent you from climbing up the next step.
Don’t be afraid to get a little lost:
Social media has made us quite blind to the realities of actual life. We are often far too distracted by the positive things that people share, that it makes us feel like we are the only ones that are lost and haven’t found our way. The important thing to realize is that you’re not expected to know where you’re going yet – which means you have some room to explore. This could be in a new country, city or a simple new hobby. By becoming a beginner again, you’ll remember what it is that you’re good at and what you need to work on. There is also a good chance it will open a door you never knew existed.
Clean up your priorities:
It is important to be able to identify what things need focus and what things you need to push to the side. Sometimes, this means throwing away the bad apples in your life that are preventing you from achieving your goals. By having your own personal spring clean, you will be able to get rid of the things that make you unhappy and make room for the things that bring enjoyment to your life.
Talk to other people:
People are pretty amazing, and everyone has a story that you can learn from. You will be surprised how helpful their advice can be if you just simply take a moment to talk to them. If you are going through a particular situation, chances are someone else you know has gone through it as well. Being able to talk to others and learn from them is a good way to open your eyes and get a fresh perspective. If you want to know how hard the climb is, ask someone who’s done it already.
Resources are your friends:
You have family; you have relatives; you have friends; you have mothers and fathers of friends; you have distant acquaintances, barely remembered drinking buddies and one time only dance partners. Somewhere in your huge pool of social interaction there are people who can lend you a helping hand – who can point your sail in the right direction or at the very least offer some helpful advice. What’s even better is that they will feel honored that you came to them for help.
Stop making comparisons:
We live in a world that encourages this sort of behavior. A world where people are constantly sharing their achievements and looking for approval from their peers. If your Facebook post about your excitement over getting that new job, or that A+ on a term paper doesn’t get enough “likes”, we subconsciously associate that with failure. We also live in a world where instant access to the lives of the rich and famous are immediately at our fingertips, waiting for us to like every post they make about their latest vacation or new million dollar sports car. As a culture, we have become so used to seeing these sorts of things that we start to have thoughts of self-doubt and feelings of un-accomplishment.
Comparisons will never, ever make you feel better. You will either feel left behind and fundamentally lacking in experience, or you'll feel a smug sense of entitlement. Neither of these mindsets are a good look on you.
Bringing it all together:
It is important to remember who you are and how far you’ve come. If you ever worry that you’re not where you should be, you may be evaluating yourself against the wrong criteria. Sometimes you just need a reminder as to what you’ve really accomplished in life.