I don't have anything against contraceptives. Each person has the right to control what goes into their body, and so they should do whatever feels best for them.
However, I don’t take any birth control. Nor would I (given the chance), and the response I get is far from supportive…
1) "You're not?"
No, I'm not. Now chill out and stop looking at me like I've grown a third head.
Well, I don't like the idea of putting a copper wire inside my body, and there are a lot of complications which can arise from having an IUD. As for the pill...it makes me gain weight, infuses me with hormones that tips me far over the crazy scale, and oh—it's a huge pain in the ass.
3) "Are you not seeing anyone??"
(I can't help but be slightly amused by this.) Just because I don't take birth control does not mean I am walking around in constant fear of getting knocked-up.
4) "How do you not get pregnant?"
Um...because I don't!?
I don’t get pregnant because I still practice safe sex and use condoms.
5) “Doesn’t your guy mind?�?
No. He doesn’t want to get pregnant either. (If a guy ever did, then he would not be the guy for me.)
6) “What happens if you don’t have a condom?�?
One, we aren’t having sex without a condom unless we've been seeing each other for a significant amount of time.
If that's the case, then we'd pull out. (*gasp*) I know—it's like I invented the wheel.
7) “What about precum?�?
WebMD just palmed itself in the face...Actually precum—if it contains any sperm cells—are dead.
Therefore, it is highly unlikely that a person will become pregnant from precum alone.
8) "But…don't you hate your period?"
Why yes, I do just like everyone else. Cramps suck. PMS, too.
9) "Why would anyone choose to have their period?"
While I may not look forward to it, I welcome my period. It makes me feel like a woman. It's natural. It doesn't feel natural to stall the flow for months at a time, so I prefer having my regular, pain-in-the-ass period to taking birth control.
That's my choice.
When I tell women I’m not taking any form of birth control, I’d prefer it if they stopped questioning my life choices just like I don’t question theirs. So, in the future, let’s agree not to ask "why," and just accept the other person's decision because it's theirs to make.
It's also nobody's damn business why.
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