Extroverts are social creatures who like to take matters into our own hands. And when it comes to relationship, we're not just outgoing, we're a force to be reckoned with.
If you're going to date us (especially if you're an introvert) here are some things you should know:
1. We will probably initiate.
Even if you’re the guy, chances are we swiped right first. Or asked you to grab a drink. Or picked the place where we’ll end up meeting.
Don’t worry, it’s not an ego check. We’re just go-getters. Consider it a good thing!
2. Prepare yourself for a whole lot of energy.
There’s a reason people use words like infectious, enthusiastic and commanding to describe us. Big personalities can come across pretty intense, and we get that.
But we’re just as interested in hearing about you as we are in talking about ourselves. When we ask questions, take the time to answer them. I promise we’re listening.
3. The more the merrier.
We realize the implications of that sentence, but we're not talking about spicing things up in the bedroom.
We feed off social situations, so more people equals more energy. If we go out with friends, expect us to be even more in our element than when we’re alone with you.
That doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy a lazy night in. Just don’t be surprised when staying in bed all day exhausts us more than a night out on the town.
4. Friendly and personable is not flirting.
The waiter, the uber driver, your coworker or friend…it doesn’t matter who it is, we want to connect! We’re bubbly and excited to meet new people, and that means we’re going to strike up a conversation with every creature we come across. Even if it’s a dog being walked in the park or the baby in the stroller.
Bonus: this translates to being fantastic with meeting your family. Parents love us, so if it comes to that we’ve got you covered.
5. Never tell us to “take it down a notch”.
You’re probably not trying to insult us. But while you’re not suggesting we are loud, obnoxious, and completely over the top, that’s exactly how we read someone telling us to tone it down.
6. Confident can still mean sensitive.
In fact, our desire to be leaders makes us care even more about what people think. Sarcasm and humor that cross the line won’t just be hurtful, it may actually make us cower.
You'll know you’ve said something wrong if a normally bouncy and smiley partner is suddenly acting quiet, unsure, and avoiding eye contact.
7. We will interrupt you without meaning to.
Extroverts don’t deal with pauses in conversation the way you as the speaker might have intended them. We think that you’re done, so we’ll launch right into our response, even if you haven’t finished your point.
We might start answering your question before you’re done asking it. We’re really not trying to be rude, we just want to show that we’re interested.
It’s okay to tell us that you weren’t done, just do it nicely.
8. You’ll never be bored.
Many of us can’t sit still which translates to being the kind of partner who wants to do things.
Prepare yourself for lots of adventures. However, that doesn’t have to mean big extravagant dates.
We’re also going to love trips to the grocery store to experiment making the latest recipe we saw on Facebook. Or trying to break the record for hours of binge watching Netflix.
9. We have a lot of love to give.
Wherever we go and whatever we do, extroverts draw energy in and exude it back out. If we fall for you, that happiness will radiate out until the whole word knows.