Mothers Day...an amazing day to celebrate the life and love between you and the greatest person in your life.
Your mom has given up everything for you. She's made countless sacrifices and loved you unconditionally no matter what. Of course, there should be a day to celebrate her.
Well unfortunately for those of us who have lost a mother, this day still exists and is no longer a day to be happy, excited and celebrate. This is actually one of most dreaded days of the year for us.
The weeks leading up to mother’s day are just as brutal. Every store is a shrine thrown in your face reminding you that your mother is no longer with you. Every commercial, every advertisement, and even the conversations with your friends and coworkers suddenly revolve around Mother’s Day and the fact that you have to face this day without yours.
It's okay to need to be alone
This is one day a year that sometimes there isn’t a person in your life that can help or make this better. Regardless of who it is, they need to steer clear of us on Mother's Day. We can be anxious. We can be sad. We can be confused. We are still learning and trying to figure out how to do this. And therefore, we need space. There is nothing anyone can say to make it better, but that's okay.
This day never seems to get easier
As the years go on it still continues to be the most dreaded day of the year. It’s okay to still avoid the isles of stores that are going to be flaunting in your face the reality that you don't have a mom. It’s okay to still walk away from the conversation when the topic of Mother's Day plans comes up. Remember, this is okay.
It's okay to be sad
It's okay to be miserable
It's okay to lock yourself in your room and cry and scream if you want to
It's okay to not be okay
This day will never be easy for us.
But that doesn't mean you are weak
It's another day to remind yourself of how strong you really are and that you can overcome this.... just like you’ve overcome everything else. And your mom will guide you every step of the way.
And... It’s only one day a year & it will be over tomorrow.
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