You allowed your guard to be down not thinking you would be hurt, you invested time into someone in hopes that they wouldn’t waste it.
You get your hopes up when someone shares the same interests as you because it could be a chance someone finally gives you your happy ending. You have tried every possible outlet and even changed who you were in hopes someone would love you.
You read all the blogs, articles and quotes and wonder why you can’t find the man or women of your dreams. Instead you have been left disappointed, heartbroken and exhausted.
We tend to pursue those who hurt us because of our fear of being alone, this crippling fear is why many people find themselves in toxic relationships. We stay in relationships knowing that we are deserving of more but are afraid to seek it, we would rather stay in toxic relationships in hopes to fix the person or the relationship.
We are in a rush to obtain “Relationship Goals” instead of investing into somebody’s soul instead of feeding off what the media paints what a perfect relationship should consist of.
FYI: Perfect relationships don’t exist.
We tend to lean towards those who share the same toxic qualities of people we have previously been in relationships with. We subconsciously understand we deserve better but are afraid to seek it, we settle for whatever brings us temporary comfort in the moment.
Taking chances is about overcoming your fears and breaking down the barriers that we have set in place to protect us from being hurt but instead our barriers prevent us from being loved by the right person. The most universal feeling felt by everyone at one point in our lives is the fear of being alone.
Don’t let your fears consume you or allow you to settle for someone out of loneliness or desperation Every relationship is faced with the same challenges but you decide whether to fight through them or to give in and let go, that’s the difference. You start to compare yourself to others and tear yourself apart wondering why they have found happiness and you have not.
It’s easy to get caught up in what we see in the media and feel disappointed in what we don’t have. I believe the people with the highest guard have the most love to offer they just need the right person to break their walls down and show them what love truly is. We continue to give our hearts and wonder when will someone love me as much as I love them.
Your feelings are a direct result of their inability to love you and that is not your fault. You owe yourself happiness and loyalty.
It's easier to settle for someone because we have engraved into our minds that we are not capable of being loved.
Our scars and darkness are a direct reflection of every trial and tribulation we have overcome. Stop minimizing your pain and face it head on, pretending it doesn't exist does not heal us but put us further back. You need to face your pain and allow yourself time to grieve, then pick yourself back up and keep fighting.
It's easier to hold onto what we know, rather than what we need and are deserving of. We are robbing ourselves of our own happiness because we're afraid to step outside our comfort zone and try something or someone else new.
Open your heart, love doesn't just mean good times it also comes with bad that's the consequences of falling in love. Sometimes we're afraid to admit that we love someone so much that the loss of their presence would destroy our very existence.
We calculate the amount of years or time we have given into a relationship and place that at a higher value than the amount of love we have given or received. We hold onto people because we believe we are undeserving of fairness, loyalty, respect and love.
We're afraid to move on because we're afraid to miss out, we're afraid to allow someone the chance to get to know us because we're holding onto what used to be.
I know you love them and would have done anything to keep them, but it's time to let go for yourself, it's time to love yourself enough to walk away and do better for yourself.
You don't owe anyone an explanation for loving and taking care of yourself.
You owe yourself the opportunity to be loved by the right person. Stop analyzing yourself for what isn’t and be happy for what is.
Stop being blinded by someone's words and watch their actions, that is who they truly are. Stop making excuses for people who mistreat and use you remove these people from your life and move on. Stop allowing people to have control over your emotions and allowing them the power to hurt you, take that power away and use it as motivation to do better for yourself.
You're wasting your time trying to impress someone who doesn't care about you enough to give you loyalty and love. Walk away from people who try to belittle and embarrass you.
You have power, don't allow anyone to steal that from you. You are enough don't allow anyone or anything to make you feel any less, you are deserving of love you just have to wait for the right person who will show you that love is truly worth waiting for.
You are enough.