Listen up - be aware of the men out there who use "sorry" as an excuse instead of as its meant to be. Watch out for those who say sorry not because they actually care but because they think it might pardon them from being complete tools.
Watch out for when they say that word, and how often. For example if you're fighting and he uses the mighty word of "sorry" to get himself of you being angry because he did something he doesn't want to acknowledge...
You sure as hell better make him acknowledge it.
You have to understand your feelings are valid, and your experience matters. So never let that voice fade even when he might want to cover it up with a word he should be using sincerely.
Beware of the men who know they can use it as a means to get you to come back. This is a treacherous path my beautiful friend. The back and fourth of manipulation that happens in so many relationships.
If a guy is verbally, physically, or emotionally abusing you... NO AMOUNT OF SORRIES IS WORTH STAYING WITH SOMEONE WHO THINKS THIS IS THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH WHATEVER IS GOING ON BETWEEN YOU..
And to be honest he isn't sorry because statistics show us he is probably going to be the same douche lord who does the same awful things to you again and again.
Please try and save yourself the trouble, and tell him he will be the one in trouble if he lays hands on you again.
There are no sorries that can be legitimized for someone's sorry excuse of behaviour. No one deserves to be belittled, yelled at over and over gain, and controlled.
Save hearing the sorry for man who actually knows what he is doing has hurt you. Save hearing sorries for someone who honest to God loves you and doesn't want to lose you, so he says sorry because he knows he wants to or needs to change.
Sorry become useless banter when it becomes over used or even rarely used.
The thing is he is using the word as a way to never have to follow through on changing the distressing behaviour or situations that are coming up between you two. And it is so dangerous to keep walking that path.
You deserve more than a sometimes investment of love or involvement in a relationship. You deserve someone who will say sorry and actually fucking mean it.
So please watch out for those men out there who use it to try and get their way. Be attentive to the men who use "I'm sorry" as an open door policy to thinking their sorry excuse of antics was okay.
You deserve so much more than that.
You deserve more than half-assed sorries that don't mean anything other than a get out of jail free card.
Because darling you're beautiful and no sorry can take that way from you.
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