A new year means a lot of fresh starts, everyone seems to always look forward to a new year to begin again. When that clock strikes twelve it’s like your motivation resets and you have this sudden ability to try harder at things you felt exhausted by last year. You make a mental list of everything you want to change, everything you didn’t deliver last year that you’ll make up for this year.
You promise yourself to push yourself, be kinder, and be an all-around better you. But what gets ignored is the way all that pressure affects you. Without even realizing it, you end up beating yourself up over every little thing and putting pressure on yourself that feels more intense than ever.
It seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day and you’re going to collapse in exhaustion at any moment. You don’t feel like you’re giving your best work, it seems half-assed at times and you wonder why you’re even putting in so much effort.
Let me tell you something, you are going to get through it. Don’t allow the stress of a new year to get to you. I know it may seem hard to believe right now but you are strong, intelligent, beautiful, independent, loving, kind, and a fighter. Those are amazing qualities that anyone should be proud to possess. You’re more important to others than you give yourself credit for. Your friends and your family couldn’t imagine a world where you didn’t exist.
You see, you’re the one who is willing to do anything for anyone. You are the first to pick up the phone when a friend is in distress, the first to reach out when you know someone is feeling low and the first to offer a helping hand even if it isn’t the easiest on you. Your phone is always on and your door is always open when someone needs to talk. You have such a big heart and it’s an amazing quality though if we’re being honest it’s probably why you get hurt sometimes.
You take everything so deeply and personally that it cuts you worse than it would cut someone else. It’s what drains you, yet you continue to push through the struggle when most would let themselves stay down on the ground. It’s like you’re walking down a rickety bridge that shakes with each step you take.
You are allowed to feel overwhelmed and you are allowed to feel shaky. You are allowed to not be a powerhouse all the time.
If you need a few reminders on why I know this, think back to the time your heart was broken and you thought it was shattered beyond repair. When all you wanted to do was lie in bed and cry and shut the entire world out. That didn’t last very long, did it? You threw off those covers, picked yourself up and greeted the day.
Or that time that nothing was going your way, and all you wanted to do was scream and cry and kick the rest of the world to the curb. You cried, you ate some ice cream, you watched your favorite movies and you put your grown-up pants on and started over again. Deep down you knew you weren’t going to stay there in the darkness and this isn’t any different.
So it’s okay to fall, you’re going to wobble and hit the ground several times again I can guarantee it. This new year doesn’t have to be a brand new you, you don’t have to change everything you once believed in. Take it in baby steps.
And remember, it’s okay to shut the world out, to get back to yourself, to cry, and let out a giant sigh. Don’t give up though. Don’t stop trying, don’t stop loving, and don’t stop being the wonderful person you are. Don’t let the bad take the good out of you.
Keep loving others, showing kindness to those that don’t deserve it, to those that never see it and to those that don’t always show you the same courtesy. Most importantly keep getting back up. You were never meant to stay down for too long. You have a beautiful soul and each day brings new opportunities forward if you’ll let them.
You can take a deep breath and know that each thing that you went through you overcame and it only made you stronger. The thing that you thought would shackle you down didn’t, you overcame it just like you’ll overcome any other obstacle that is set in front of you.
At the end of the day, you have to believe in yourself because sometimes you only have yourself to turn to. So I believe in you and I believe that you’ll surprise yourself and when you need someone to help get you up off the floor, I will be right there pushing you to do your best.
You’ll get through this and come out and even better you.
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