Anxiety isn't fun. There isn't a single person who struggles with it that will tell you they love having it.
It's moody and intense and heartbreaking.
But the strong ones will learn how to handle it. How to counteract its ugly ways and turn it into independence and beauty. And that isn't easy.
Realize that a lot of her anxiety comes from this dark place of loss. Some relationship of high important between a friend or a family member or a guy she thought she would live out the rest of her days with, ended without warning.
Maybe even more than once. Maybe even more than one person.
This ending has manifested itself into a thought running on repeat twenty four hours, seven days a week. This thought that everyone is eventually going to leave her. That she is not important enough for people to keep her around. She is simply a stepping stone onto the next.
And I can't guarantee that even a relationship label will do the trick. It will help. But honestly, you're going to have to marry this girl before it has calmed down to a nearly dormant state.
But it can be beautiful.
When she is with you, she will still want to be as physically close to you as possible. It calms her mind to know that you are right there, next to her and haven't left her. That simple touch between your two bodies, means so much more to her than you know.
She just wants to feel that you are there.
And when she asks you everyday if you still love her, it's because she loves to hear it. It makes her happy. It's calming that thought in her mind when it is coming at her with fire in its breath.
Your reassurance will let her be free of the one thing she so desperately is wishing away - even if only for a little bit.
She never means to bug you, annoy you or get on your nerves. And will do everything possible to counteract her mind's needs.
She will be attentive. Your every need met before you have realized you even needed it. She will remember the small things and accommodate them without recognition.
She won't ignore her own needs. She knows her limits and how to take care of herself. While still being independent enough to do her own thing.
She will be nurturing.
She will want to take care of you. Partially because she never wants to give you a reason to leave. Partially because she enjoys taking care of you.
Because she knows her anxiety affects those around her. And she will try her hardest to make sure her needy clinginess is translated into you making sure how much she cares and how much you are loved.
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