Douchebags belittle us into thinking it’s true love when it’s just the runaround, and then give us excuses in validation for their actions.
There is no excuse for any guy to treat you less than what you deserve but there is also no excuse for a woman entertain guys who will pull you down in a path of destruction.
They give you the Illusion of a "Good Guy". All douchebags come in all shapes and sizes which means there is no exception in their illusion to come forth as the perfect “he’s the one” guy at first but will steadily show their true colors.
The beginning stages are always good because of the frequent I love you’s, kisses, constant communication and feeling he is the knight shining armor you have long been waiting for then suddenly your knight shining armor decides not to save the girl but distance himself to adhere to his needs instead of yours.
He moves quickly in the beginning so he gets to the good parts about you and comes back when he has a clear chance at intimacy.
Then suddenly pulls back, giving him an excuse to say he needs space, that committing to you was “too much to handle”, cheat on other people and run back to you when he’s done.
This hot and cold perplexing behavior is giving him chance to give you the runaround but also use you in the process thus giving the lack of respect you deserve. It’s simple. It’s either you want to be with me or not but do not hurt us while doing it.
Me, Me, Me...Egoistical guys may attract you into thinking you’re that guy every girl wish for but there isn’t any intention of giving love. They instead ridicule everything you do, say, and wear so the narrative can be focused on him.
My ex-boyfriend used to criticize me a lot. I felt I was tip toeing in our relationship just to feel comfortable with me and bent over backwards to where I had to pretend we weren’t together so he can maintain a certain image.
I dwelled so much into my insecurities that I never once got to ask myself “do you want to be with someone who takes so much but in return gives so little. Then there on, I was waiting for that good morning text or just a moment of the exact attention he gives to the women he scrolls down his phone.
Every so often, I’ll get random messages saying he misses me or how he wants to see me every three months. Then we forget naïvely in the moment of hope and excitement that it’s another of his excuses because no man stops talking to their girlfriend because he”loves you”.
I soon realize it wasn’t just the complexity of his character; he just doesn’t want to commit to me.
This is what true egoistic douchebags often do; keep you close while they keep their distance.
We all want to believe deep down that he isn’t a douchebag but If it feels wrong don’t turn a blind eye and follow your instincts.
I have fallen for plenty of douchebags in my past where I turned a blind eye because I was in love with the idea of love to the point I thought I was receiving it.
I feel as if a lot of women have been deceived in that thinking because it is our nature to want love as pictured in every Nicholas Sparks novel. Thou, love like that doesn’t exists in the reality, doesn’t mean you should suffer abuse or to be treated poorly.
We should love and know and love yourself well enough to choose the right person when they come.
The next time you see who are inhibiting this manipulative behavior, don’t hesitate. Run!