From one broken-hearted girl to another, I’m here to help you come to terms with the fact that he just doesn’t care enough about what you have to let you know, let you go and give you closure.
He’s just not ready. Maybe his heart has been broken for the worst and he just doesn’t know what he wants. Maybe, just maybe, he doesn’t want to hurt you again if it doesn’t work out. Whatever the reason might be, the most important thing to focus on is his lack of trying.
I know this because I have this beautifully, wonderful man in my life who absolutely without a doubt shattered my heart. Our interests are similar, and we get along like we’ve known each other our entire lives. I can’t possibly imagine having this sort of connection with anyone else. However, it was never him reaching out.
Everything we have in common isn’t enough – but I really just don’t want there to be a final ending because all of the hope inside me will disappear. I don’t want to feel the pain if he ends up breaking my heart again. But I have to swallow the reality of his true feeling for me.
So here’s the brutal truth about a guy who doesn’t try enough. If he really, truly cared – he’d make some sort of effort to see you or talk to you more often, or let you know where his head is, or even tell you to wait. Which sounds redundant and naïve. If he knows he wants you, eventually he could get there. If he knows he wants to try with you, he should let you know to just give him time.
He would tell you.
It hurts to accept that he doesn’t care enough. It’s the one thing you’ll absolutely refuse to accept. Because you might as well be breaking your own heart all over again – you know it’s going to hurt that bad.
But think back to this constant state of confusion you’ve been finding yourself in, and maybe ripping the band-aid off won’t be so bad. I can tell you that finding a way to force closure will absolutely benefit you in the long run. Either by bowing out quietly and accepting reality or being brave by telling him how you feel and hope for the best.
You could end up flying or falling but on your own terms. With pride and grace in your heart.
If it doesn’t work out, know there is some beauty in this heartbreak. Mainly because you chose it. You listened to your heart and what it needs to no longer question it all, constantly bring him up in conversation and overthink every interaction you two have ever had.
You chose to mend the pain and stitch the wound, even if it started with hurting even more than before.
Put so much focus into other portions of your life that when you go back to start thinking about dating and relationships again, it’s as if he was never there in the first place. It’s as if he has almost no hold on your heart anymore.
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