The term “needy�? has come to be associated with being insecure or overly dependent. These days, men are so quick to label a woman as needy if she’s a little too outspoken.
If a woman asks for too much attention, she must be needy. If she sends too many texts or calls too often, she’s needy. If she wants to know your plans or be included in them, she’s obviously needy.
I’ve had a few men in the past brand me as being “too needy.�? But when it came down to it, they were just lazy.
They didn’t want to put in the effort, so they acted like I was asking for too much. They were the insecure ones who couldn’t own up to being the problem.
But guess what? There’s a difference between being needy and knowing what I want.
I know what I need, and I own it. If anything, that makes me more secure, not less. I’m gutsy enough to say what I want and why.
I want my needs met just like everyone else; I’m just not afraid to say it out loud.
And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
If that makes me needy to you, then that’s too damn bad. Yeah, I might be more assertive or vocal than you’re used to. But so what?
If you can’t handle it, that’s your issue- not mine.
If I ask for attention, it’s because I’m not getting enough. If I send too many texts, it’s because I feel like they are being ignored.
If I ask too many questions, it’s because I want to know about your life and I'm feeling left out of it.
I want a relationship where we are equal. I want to be respected enough where I can voice my opinions or needs without being judged or labeled for it.
I want to be a couple that spends time together. I want to go on vacations with you and plan ahead for the future.
I don’t want to be two independent people living our own separate lives. I want to share a life with you, not just watch yours from a distance.
If I could, I’d see you every single day. Even if only for a few minutes. The truth is, I hate being away from you for too long. I miss you, and I’m not ashamed to say it.
I love hearing about your day, and I want you to ask about mine. I want to know what’s going on with you because I care about you.
You’re always the first person I want to talk to when anything good or bad happens. I get so excited to tell you I can barely wait.
I’ll never stop wanting more; maybe even wanting too much sometimes. That's just who I am.
So if wanting a certain type of relationship makes me too needy, then so be it. But I’ll never change or apologize for it.
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