The idea of dating a single mom can be frightening. Here she is raising little humans, day in and day out, and you can’t even keep a plan alive. As intimidating as dating a single mom might seem, it is worth it.
If you are willing to put in the effort.
She won’t always respond to your texts right away. If you are insecure, then dating a single mom might not be right for you. She is too busy with her children to be at your beck and call. But she is also too busy raising her kids to be up your ass all the time.
She is not clingy. She won’t care if you want a night out with the guys. That just means she doesn’t have to pay for a babysitter.
Her kids will always come first. It might be difficult to learn how to be second string in your girl’s life, but it is something you have to get used to.
But trust me, if you hang around, she will make it up to you. She knows how crazy and hectic her life is, and she has no problem rewarding the guy who is okay with coming in second.
Her ex will always be in her life. That is just part of her baggage that she should never have to apologize for. But rest easy, because it is a reminder that being a parent is not your job. Being her partner is.
Don’t get too hung up on the idea that she still talks to her ex regularly. If she wanted him to be her partner, he would still be.
There won’t be much spontaneity. If you want a weekend away, it needs to be planned weeks in advanced. And then there is always the chance that she will cancel. She will choose spending a weekend with a sick kid any day.
That just shows how big her heart is. And that maybe one day, she will help take care of you when you are sick.
There a lot of hurdles to jump over when it comes to dating a single mom. We know how intimidating it is when you see a woman that is a force to be reckoned with. Someone who might come across as uninterested at first, but that is just because she has a jam packed schedule.
She knows how to love. She loves fiercely and unconditionally. She won’t have time to play games, because she’s too busy attending her children’s games. She won’t depend on you, but she wouldn’t mind having you around, supporting her.
If you are lucky, she will eventually introduce you to the loves of her life. And you will understand. The sacrifices that are made to be a part of her life, and her children’s lives are totally worth it.
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