Being vulnerable is scary. No actually, it's terrifying. But if we can't open up and trust our boyfriends, then how do we expect him to do the same for us?
If we don't feel safe telling our boyfriends our secrets or be certain he's telling us the truth, we're in for a bumpy ride.
But trust is a two-way street, he wants us to restore his faith in love just as we wish he would do for us.
Every girl wants the guy she can run to and vent to when she's frustrated, and guys want the same in us.
We want our boyfriends to be comfortable opening up to us. We want him to be excited to tell us things, not scared.
Because once he's able to open up, we’ll know we fully have his trust. And we’ll always protect it the best we can.
We know how hard it is to talk about our past, so when he opens up about his, it's big.
Not everyone’s past is something they’re proud of, but we want him to be comfortable telling us the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.
When we take the time to learn about him, from the inside out, it'll show him how much we genuinely care. When he feels safe with us, he'll tell us which memories still give him the chills or that knot at the back of his throat.
The times he let himself or other down, and how he handled it.
If he lets us know even the tiniest thing about him that makes him tick, his heart is trusting us.
Who doesn't love talking about themselves? But when he opens up about these things, we're not 'just anybody' to him. Like how he clears his mind when he’s stressed, what his favorite thing about himself is, how often he calls his mom, and who his best friends are.
And the best part is when he feels like he can tell us his dreams for his future... which includes us.
What's left on his bucket list? Does he have dreams of getting married? What country is he dying to visit and when can we go?
The way we see the world and what we hope for ourselves is a big part of who we are. Relationships require compromise, of course, but having similar goals and views is definitely a plus when it comes to the future.
Truly getting to know each other takes time and effort, but what a beautiful thing it is to feel like we know someone inside and out.