If you can’t really trust your boyfriend with your secrets or be certain he's telling you the truth, you're in for a bumpy ride.
I know being honest is way harder than it seems. When I’m single for awhile, I always wonder why I had such a hard time opening up to past boyfriends.
...But then I’m in a new relationship, something upsets me, he asks what's wrong, and all of the sudden I’m speechless.
That's just the way it goes; being vulnerable is scary. But trust works both ways. It's not just about you trusting him but being trusted by him as well.
I want my boyfriend to be comfortable opening up to me. I want him be excited to tell me things, not scared.
Because once he’s able to open up, I’ll know I fully have his trust. And I’ll always protect it the best I can.
First and foremost, I want to know about his past.
How we are raised is the single most influential part of who we become. Not everyone’s past is something they’re proud of, but I want him to be comfortable telling me the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.
Which childhood memories he cherishes most and which ones still haunt him. Times where he let himself or others down, and how he handled it. What he imagined he'd grow up to be and if he still holds onto that dream.
I also want to know all the things that make him who is he today. The smallest things about people add up and create their personality.
Like how he clears his mind when he’s stressed, what his favorite thing about himself is, how often he calls his mom, and who his best friends are.
Finally, I want him to share how he envisions the future.
The way we see the world and what we hope for ourselves is a big part of who we are. Relationships require compromise, of course, but having similar goals and views is definitely a plus when it comes to the future.
What does he think about marriage? What's left on his bucket list? Does he envision a future with kids, why/why not?
Truly getting to know each other takes time and effort, but what a beautiful thing it is to feel like you know someone inside and out.