There is no possible way that someone could live here, on earth, without facing the brutal reality that you are going to end up getting hurt one time or another.
God blessed each and every one of us with mouths and tongues. It is said that our elbow is the strongest part of our bodies and when it comes to physical strength, who am I to say that that is incorrect?
There are different kinds of pain. There is physical pain, emotional pain, psychological pain, mental pain, spiritual pain and others that I am sure I did not mention.
The pain that so many of us face more often than the others, I would tend to think, is emotional pain.
All kinds of pain hurt, hence the word pain.
Physical pain is something that we have all had to deal with from time to time, accidents happen.
We misjudge how much force and at what angle to cut the vegetable, we accidentally put the curling iron too close to our neck, we break a bone, etc.
The thing about physical pain is that you can typically recover from it. It doesn't last forever. That's not to say that we are completely 100% healed from the injury, but the pain does subside and we are able to use that body part once again for the most part.
Emotional pain, on the other hand, is so much harder to get over.
Emotional pain typically consists of words. I know that the elbow is the strongest part of the body, but a part that I feel is so overlooked is our tongues. They are like double edged swords.
The words, sentences, even paragraphs that they can conjure up are insane. Sometimes, I can't even believe it.
Emotional pain is not something that you can put a band aid on, put butter onto to release some of the heat, we cannot stitch, or put it back in place.
Emotional pain is something that we must learn to handle and deal with in a healthy manner. We are capable of healing and overcoming emotional pain just as we are physical pain. It may not be as easy, but it is possible.
Sometimes, just like with physical pain, it is beyond something that we alone can fix.
We are so immensely blessed to have psychologists, therapists, counselors, psychiatrists, the list goes on and on of people who want to help us heal.
Know that it is okay to get help and to reach out to others that know how to help you.
What is not okay is to let it sit in your life. It is not okay to let it pile up. It is not okay to shove it under the rug and hope that it will stay there.
You are a person and you are not supposed to handle the kind of weight that this world put on so many of us.
We all struggle. We all hurt. We all handle pain differently, but most importantly, we all have it.
Don't hide your feelings. Don't sugarcoat things. Don't lie to the ones that care about you and that includes you. Don't lie to yourself.
There are ways to deal with heartache, grief and pain. Not dealing with it is not ones of those ways.
But always, always remember that it is okay to feel.