It’s a challenge to convince you that you deserve to love yourself more. It seems that you have an inability to see what others see in you.
Being unable to look past the stretch marks and little bits of extra fat that cover your body, or the minor wrinkles slowly growing along your jawline. You can’t accept that these are not imperfections or flaws, but it’s those little things that make you unique.
I understand it’s hard for you to accept her.
She isn’t the person you want to see when you look in the mirror, and you’ve hated her for a long time now.
Try to understand that the most important person to please is yourself. Others will envy you because you have a power that they can never possess.
You have the power to smile and to laugh that whole belly laugh you do when you are truly happy. You have a soul which loves deeply and a heart that can’t help but care. You have the power to use your lips to speak kind words or kiss the one who appreciates you with such passion.
You have the power over your own life.
You aren’t being fair to yourself. You aren’t allowing yourself to learn more about the beautiful girl you see staring back at you in the mirror. I hate that you look at her and never see her the way we do.
Your confidence is a direct reflection of who she reveals to you.
Cherish those days that she makes you feel beautiful. It’s those days when your smile is that much brighter and your eyes get to sparkle because you approved of what you saw.
Stop being trapped in the idea of who you think you should be and just be who you are.
There will always be days where you can’t help but notice that little imperfection and it becomes something you can’t unsee. But don’t let it consume you; don’t obsess over it until you try and forget it’s there.
For months you tried to avoid eye contact with that girl in the mirror. Just because you tried to cover her up and hide from her doesn’t mean she stops existing.
The people who love you saw you struggle every day.
You never listened to us about how beautiful you are, how loving your eyes and smile really are, how jealous I am of your curves. You only saw what you couldn't love.
You're certainly not ugly in the eyes of those who love you. I know once you love yourself again, you'll start to see that girl in the mirror the same way you had before you began hating her.
I love you for who you are.
Everyone you encounter loves you for the person you are. You often forget that you're so much more than your appearance.
My only wish is that my kind, generous, intelligent, wonderful friend could love herself the way I love you.
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