The scariest thing for me to try and accept during this whole ordeal is that sometimes love actually isn’t enough and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

You and your partner can be madly, deeply and passionately in love with each other and sometimes that still isn’t enough to make the relationship work.

How is this possible you wonder? I wonder the same thing still. I wondered the same thing as I laid on my bathroom floor sobbing after my ex told me I am the person they are in love with but it isn’t that simple.

Truth is, it wasn’t that simple for me either. As much as I loved this person and they loved me in return it wasn’t enough to repair the damage or be the person that the other one needed.

Love wasn’t going to fix our fights. Love wasn’t going to fix our differences. Love wasn’t going to fix the intense work we needed to do on ourselves before we could ever think about being together.

This reality hurt. It still hurts. It hurt more and more every time we sat facing each other on the couch talking about what we were going to do because we couldn’t be together and we couldn’t be apart.

It was terrifying, heartbreaking and one of the hardest realizations. It still is. But if there is anything that I have learned through this process it is that sometimes the timing just isn’t right. Sometimes even in a perfect world it’s just the wrong time to make things work.

You need to grow. You need to find yourself. You need to let time pass.

And while this time passes, maybe you both realize you are ready to be what the other one needs. Maybe you realize it has been them all along and nobody can fill that spot.

Or maybe you realize it really was just only love. A temporary love. A love that was once everything but now something you need to leave behind.

At the time, we never know why someone came into our lives. We never know why some things have to be so painful and difficult. We never know why we had to be chosen to go through this.

However, in time, we find the answers. We will figure it out. We truly will see if this love is enough. But we have to remember and try to accept that sometimes, love really isn’t enough.

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