People always tell me that "in order to truly be ready to settle down, you have to see what’s out there." It makes sense when you think about it. By no means am I saying that you should become a serial dater, but you should definitely learn what you like and don't like.
If you are never alone long enough to learn what it’s like to see what’s out there, I’m not sure how you could know that you are ready to commit to something for the rest of your life.
It’s easy to jump from relationship to relationship. It’s comfortable to stay with the same person even when you’re unhappy. We tend to cling to things that are safe. We don’t like stepping out of our comfort zone for the main reason being that we are afraid what life would be like alone.
We fear being on our own. We are absolutely terrified of the fact that we may not even like who we are by ourselves. What if we don’t find someone else? What if this person is the only person we will be able to find or we spend the rest of our life alone?
No matter how unhappy we are, these thoughts cause us linger in our relationships. We would stay miserable with someone that doesn’t treat us well to avoid having to figure out how to do the whole process over.
Getting to know someone is terrifying. It’s the scariest thought to think about letting someone in again. How on earth could we ever get to the place where someone knows all of our fears, dreams, and insecurities again? How could we possibly let someone back into our core, our soul, and literally every part of us?
Are we supposed to casually date? Are we actually supposed to go out with multiple guys, get to know different people and play the field? What does that even mean?
It means all sorts of things.
Getting yourself back out there means also figuring out who you are. It means realizing what you want and what you will never settle for again. It allows you to be empowered. It makes you see how much else is out there and how many people actually are interested in you.
It allows you to be in control. It gives you the chance to take the wheel and be the only one who is in charge of your wants, needs, and happiness.
It allows you to meet new people. It gives you the opportunity to let fate take its course and see who you meet along the way.
It gives you the chance to feel again. You will learn to feel for yourself and learn that it’s possible to feel something for someone else again.
You will learn about new things that bother you. You will figure out pet peeves you didn’t know you have.
You will learn what drives passion. You will learn things about someone that you don’t know how you ever lived without.
It’ll be a rollercoaster of an experience. It will make you nervous and excited all at once. The feelings may be overwhelming at times, but in the end, it will all be worth it.