“To those who have given up on love, I say: 'trust life a little bit.'” - Maya Angelou
Giving up on love is the biggest mistake one could ever make.
Without love, there’s nothing worth having in life.
You often hear people saying things like "I'm done looking for love, it's not worth the risk of getting hurt again."
We’re so ignorant, we have no idea what love really is. We blame love for our suffering, but that's not fair at all.
Believe it or not, it’s not loving that causes us heartbreak, but rather the ideas we have in our head about what love should feel like and how relationships should manifest.
Most people who claim to hate love are in controlling relationships, not loving relationships. They're with someone who pretends to know what’s best for them and deprives them of the freedom we all want and need.
But real love is not interested in controlling, trying to change, or caging another person.
We've all been emotionally hurt and injured in a relationship, but love was not the culprit. We should give up on unhealthy attachments and toxic behavior patterns you or your partner may have, not love itself.
Because you'll know real love when you find it. And with true love and togetherness, you can dance through any storm.
I'll leave you with this quote I hope will help you understand:
“Would you just stay with me?
Stay with you? What for? Look at us! We're already fighting!
Well that's what we do! We fight! You tell me when I'm being an arrogant son of a bitch and I tell you when you're being a pain in the ass! Which you are, 99% of the time. I'm not afraid to hurt your feelings, you have like a two-second rebound rate and you're back doing the next pain in the ass thing.
So it's not gonna be easy, it's gonna be really hard. And we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I wanna do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever. You and me. Everyday.” - Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook