You suffered a great loss. Your world has been flipped upside down and I don't have the answers to make it okay. I know how badly you are hurting right now, and I know there is nothing I can do to take that pain away.
I'm not here to give you advice on how to get through it, and I won't give you a pep talk. There's no guide book for grief because everyone heals differently. You're going to have to do what works for you, no matter what that looks like to other people.
As your friend and as a person who knows what you're going through, I know that you only need to hear two simple words.
if you need to talk. I know that there are a lot of thoughts swirling around your head right now, competing for attention and exhausting you in the process. And I know that you might only find some peace after you've vented them out. I am here if you need some help sorting through the noise.
if you need to listen. I know sometimes, the best thing we can have after tragedy is the occasional distraction. I can be that for you. I will tell you stories, redirect the conversation, and keep your mind occupied so your thoughts don't go to darker places.
if you need to cry. Because sometimes that's the only way you can get those emotions out. By allowing this unspoken release of the grief and the pain to make more room for healing in your heart when you are ready.
to be silent. If you just need someone to physically be there with you, I am your girl. We don't need to exchange words. You don't have to try and make sense of everything going on, and you don't have to justify any of your actions or lack of action to me.
You can allow for moments of quiet reflection, and I am more than willing to sit in silence with you as you process this hardship.
Simply put, I'm here.
And I am not going anywhere. I am here for whichever part of the hardship you are in. I am here, and there's nothing that'll push me away, so you don't ever have to feel like you need to hide your emotions or put on a show for my sake.
Because I know there will be days where you'll be in the thick of this very personal process, and you will feel like you're all alone. But, you are never alone.
So, take your time. Grieve. Heal. Process. And know that I am with you through this.