"A daughter is a mothers gender partner, her closest ally in the family confederacy, an extension of herself. And mothers are their daughters role model, their biological and emotional road map, the arbiter of all of their relationships.â€? - Victoria Secunda
And we have lost that. We have officially begun on a path of a new life that we no longer have that role model without a road map to follow.
There are people all around us, but in a way, we are still so very alone. With everything life throws at us, as daughters, we search for our mothers. We search for guidance from our mothers. We search for answers from our mothers. We search for help from our mothers. There is nothing in life our mom didnâ€™t have the answer to.
She always knew the right thing to say. She always knew how to get our heads on straight with whatever we were dealing with. Nobody in this world can fill the void that opened when we lost our mothers.
So few people understand the loss that we are dealing with. As a daughter, unless you have already lost your mother, you have no idea. Itâ€™s a feeling one could ever try to explain unless they have been through it.
Itâ€™s the feeling when you just got your heart broken and you canâ€™t lay in your momâ€™s arms.
Itâ€™s the feeling when you just got a new job and canâ€™t call your mom on the way home to tell her.
It's the feeling when you are so excited, but realize you can't share it with your mom.
It's the feeling when you have no idea what to wear on a first date, and you know your mom would have the perfect outfit in mind.
Itâ€™s the feeling when you are in a fight with your significant other and want to ask your mom how she would handle it.
Itâ€™s the feeling for the first, and every single milestone after, that your mom isnâ€™t there for.
Itâ€™s the feeling when youâ€™re fighting with your girlfriends and just want to hear your momâ€™s opinion.
Itâ€™s the feeling when you cannot figure out what shoes to wear with your dress and your mom isnâ€™t there to help you.
It's the feeling of constantly missing your biggest fan, your best friend, your person.
Itâ€™s the feeling for the rest of your life, that becomes all too familiar.
Itâ€™s a feeling of awful pain, that no matter how good things in your life are goingâ€¦ will always linger.
It's a club that we did not ask to join.
We are motherless daughters.
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I have found so much support from the â€œMotherless Daughtersâ€? Facebook page. It is a great group for woman whose mothers have died! So thank you. The link is below for anyone interested!