As I watch people jump from relationship to relationship just to fill a void or solve a problem I continue to wonder to myself if there is something that I am doing wrong.
I look back on all of the unhappy and toxic relationships I have found myself a part of and for a second, genuinely find myself wondering if I was the one that made the mistake by not staying in these.
But really the best thing I ever did was leave those relationships. The greatest thing I ever did for myself was learn how to be alone in a world that is so centered on being with someone else.
We literally are living in a culture that leaves both men and women thinking that they are not complete without someone else. We grow up being taught that we are to get married, have children, etc, etc.
That is all great and all don’t get me wrong. But what’s the rush? What is the point in settling for someone who doesn’t make you happy and doesn’t give you that spark and fairy tail you have always wanted?
Why do we have to feel like once we reach a certain age we have to settle for whatever is available just to avoid the dreaded fear of being alone?
That fear of being alone is absolutely what drives it. Nobody can wrap their head around how a person could be choosing, for the time being, to be alone and work on themselves.
A concept that should be so simple; loving yourself first- has become something that people are terrified to even think about. People can’t understand how one can find happiness on their own, without having a partner.
The world is filled with billions of people. There are opportunities surrounding you at every corner. There are millions of ways to find and create your own life and your own happiness.
There is so much to do. There is so much to see. Take yourself on an adventure. Step out of your comfort zone. Do something entirely on your own.
See the world from your own eyes, without anyone else dictating the way that you see it.
Find out what makes YOU happy. Find out what YOU want.
You never have to settle.
You deserve a life full of love, passion, and happiness: every single day.
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