It’s not easy being an over-thinker. It’s rough and there are nights where it consumes you, whether it’s 2pm and you’re trying to eat but all you do is over analyze words that were said during the heat of a fight.
Or when it’s 2am and you keep tossing and turning wondering if there’s something wrong with you and why people always leave.
You can’t stop over-thinking. It’s not that easy, and if you’re an over-thinker you know how much it consumes you and what type of toll it takes on you.
So you know that you just can’t stop when someone asks you to. Loving an over-thinker is not easy. But with a little effort and reassurance that’s how you love an over-thinker.
If your loved one is an over-thinker chances are they love and care about you more than you.
They have a big heart and no matter how many times they have been hurt I promise you they continue to love. But sometimes their over-thinking takes over.
They stay up or spend their day with questions going through their minds such as “what do they mean by this?” “why didn’t they say good morning?”
They will analyze everything you say and everything you do.
They will look deep into something you said and question the meaning behind it, even if to you the meaning is simple, there will be a thousand questions that form in their head. And they can’t help it.
You reassure them calmly as to what you meant. Don’t continue to drown them in their questions. Because I promise it will have an emotional impact on them.
If they irritate you with their questions please remind them that you love them calmly, please don’t get mad, because chances are they’ve been hurt quite a lot and sometimes they need the reassurance.
Don’t let them go to sleep upset or after you two get into a fight don’t end it with a simple “goodnight”.
Please fix the issue. Ask them if they are okay, because chances are even after a fight and you believe everything is back to normal they are already overthinking.
Remind them that you’re still there for them and that you love them. Because if you leave after a fight and they don’t get any reassurance I promise you they’ll overthink the entire night and their pillow will be soaked in their tears.
They just can’t help it. So please don’t blame them for being over-thinkers. I can not emphasize on Reassurance, the littlest things will make them over-think and it will lead into something bigger so before they go in too deep into analyzing stop them.
Reassure them and I promise that it will mean the world to them. They want to see that you care and that you love them. Even if it’s not the way they love and care for you.
Over-thinkers might seem complicated and annoying, but I promise they love hard.
Sometimes the simplest reminders for over-thinkers is how you love them.
Your comfort, care and love is what they need to keep their minds from wandering into the bad thoughts.