“I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.” -- Steve Maraboli
We tend to scrutinize our relationships based on how the other partner is treating us, how they are loving us.
We take into account their love, their expression of loving us, and we demand from them, we ask more of them, and when a problem arises, we find ways to make it all about them.
What we don’t talk about is how we are loving them. Are we the partner they deserve?
Are we a part of the problem that they are acting certain way? Are we the reason they are getting so mad?
Why would we deserve more than what we are giving?
Sure, for any normal couple differences in attitude exist. But, are we doing our part to solve the difference? Are we looking at our contributions to the relationship?
Too often our evaluations of another person are based off how much they are giving us.
We take and we take more, then we demand more. But, the dimension of our relationship changes when we become the partner we want them to be.
We need to lift ourselves up to the point that we want them to lift to, instead of stooping low.
When love becomes about what we can get out of it, we have already downgraded our inner spirit. We’ve begun the steep descent into a heartbreak.
However, when we make it about loving the other person in the way we want to be loved, then we can experience the magic within our relationship.
The next time your partner is having a hard day and taking it out on you, ask yourself, “What is the most loving way I can embrace this situation?”
When we focus on what we can give, we lose urgency to receive.
A relationship should be balance between two people. You get most things in life not by taking but giving.
Nobody can predict the future of the relationship.
You just have to give your all to the relationship you're in and do your best to take care of your partner, communicate and give them every last drop of love and care you have.
Relationship becomes a blessing when both partners give without remembering and take without forgetting.