To the girl who has dated a lot:
It’s probably not your fault that you’ve dated numerous times; whether it’s on a scale of: casual dating, fling to fling, ending in boyfriend to boyfriend- or anything in between. I say probably because there are so many factors that coexist in today’s society. Broken families, the mentality that if the relationship doesn’t work we can just break up or get a divorce, trying to fill that void of loneliness or that burning desire to feel loved by anyone even if we know it isn’t right, and my personal favorite- society is designed to drill into others skulls that there is some sort of flaw with a young girl if she doesn’t have a boyfriend.
Girls get so excited when they tell their friends that there is a new prospective guy in their lives. We are all extremely guilty. We all immediately say: “Oh my gosh! What is his name? Where did you two meet? Do you think he wants to be official?” We do it to each other, even if it’s unintentional. What ever happened to taking our time and being healthy about going into a new relationship? For us to be guarded we have to get hurt a billion times to realize that we need to take a step back before giving our hearts away. There is no fear in love, and going into a new relationship should not be a fearful mission.
If you’re anything like me you are extremely hard on yourself in regards to your dating history. There is no one else to force blame on. It was all poor choices on my behalf. I’m here to remind you that life goes on. There are better things ahead. Your past boyfriend record does not define your future dating relationship(s). We have to remember that everyone is given the free will to love, and to love back. I’m here to remind you that it shouldn’t take getting hurt a billion times to be wise with which we date and give our hearts too. Be selective. Be smart. Be careful. Be guarded. Be mindful. But most of all, know your self-worth. You’re worth it.