I’m sure I’m not the only girl who has a list of qualities she would appreciate having in a significant other. Making that list feels like a right of passage, doesn't it?
And as we grow up, that list alters and shifts. It becomes a completely new person than the one we originally wrote down on paper.
Some qualities will never change, though. Some will always reign high on my list.
The highest will always be that the man I love has a deep relationship with Christ.
And I don’t just mean that he thinks Christ is cool and acknowledges his existence. I hope he’s a guy who is passionate about God’s word and prays daily and isn’t afraid to talk about Christ.
A guy who loves God more than he will ever love me.
I figure I’m putting in so much time and energy and hope into a relationship with the Lord that the man I may marry should as well.
My relationship with God will always be the single most important relationship in my life. I need a guy who feels the same to understand that.
If they don’t love God the way I do, they’ll wonder why I pray to God before I solve a conflict, why I spend my extra time worshipping in a church. I won’t have someone to delve into the Word with.
I’ll feel like I’m keeping secrets from my partner.
The worst of all--I’ll be fighting for a relationship with God all by myself.
I think of God as my greatest friend. Then I imagine if the guy I was dating didn’t like my physical best friend. That just feels like a punch in the gut, and another line on that list I’ve created over the years that isn’t okay to pass up.
If the guy I’m with has a passion for Jesus, then together we will grow deeper in our faith. We will have a firm foundation molded out of spirituality and holiness, and we will be strong.
Because it won’t be our relationship, but the Lord’s. He will bless it with His provisions.
I can’t imagine being in any other kind of relationship.
I can’t imagine not mutually placing God in the center of love.
So unless a man loves the Lord, I don’t think I can date him. I’ll never be able to put him before my Savior, and I just don’t think that’s something a faithless man will understand.
I pray daily for someone who can match my passion for Jesus with their own.
And until I find that, I’ll stay in my committed relationship with God. Because above all else, that’s the single most important relationship in my life.
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