"The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it." ~Nicholas Sparks
They say the two greatest things in life are to love and to be loved in return. This is what is great, but what about when it ends? What about when one half of the love gets up and walks away? What happens when one person decides they aren't in love with the other anymore?
Here are some of the things life doesn't tell you about heartbreak. There's a whole lot of, "it gets better" and "I understand." You'll get the whole, "we've all gone through it" and "you're not alone," but sometimes you'll wish they would have been a little more honest with you and given you real insight into what was yet to come.
I'm here to tell you, because as a person going through it right now, this advice and these words don't get much more raw and true than this. It may get better, but when? At what point does the pain hurt?
Number 1: There will be bad days. Days way worse than the others. You may even think you're okay one day and then the next, you turn on the radio and you and your ex's song comes on and you immediately revert back to the exact moment you two ended things and you fall apart all over again. This is normal and it doesn't just happen once either.
Number 2: They sometimes come back. Sometimes they realize what they lost or they just want to remind themselves that they still have a hold on your emotions and they'll tiptoe their way back into your life in the most inconvenient way possible and it'll break you. Hearing their voice or seeing their name pop up on your phone will destroy you. It'll make you think of everything you've been through with them and the healing process will begin all over.
Number 3: Staying busy doesn't always help...but it does sometimes. I've drowned myself in work, in writing, in school, in alcohol, in pills, in friends, in other men and, while it may act as a distraction, it can only mask the pain for so long.
There will come a time when you have to face it head on and transform it into the strength you need to move forward. Replace the heartache with courage and manifest positivity.
Number 4: It's okay to be sad. It's okay to break down in the middle of the produce section at the grocery store or while you're sitting in the car at a stop light in the middle of the day. It's okay to be reminded of things and it's okay to allow those things to bring you occasional sadness and tears. It's okay to wake up with puffy eyes and spend your day searching for answers. It's a part of the process.
Number 5: No one expects you to be okay and no one can tell you when you will be. It's a process and you've got to allow yourself to go through it in the way you were meant to.
Surround yourself with good people and immerse yourself in something that makes you smile. Love yourself more than the person that broke your heart couldn't.
Heartbreak is inevitable and know you're not alone. Allow yourself to grieve and don't stop the tears from falling, but done deny yourself the opportunities to smile.