No matter what the problem is, she's always there to help you out.
Without a thought, she'll always be by your side helping you work through your own issues and feelings.
As much as she loves being there for other people, she also does it for herself. It makes her feel like she has it all together when in reality, everyone else’s problems are just a distraction from her own.
If something happens that hurts her, she won’t acknowledge it head on.
She avoids confrontation at all costs. If she begins to feel something deeply, especially negative emotions like anger or hurt, she'll disappear for awhile and deal with it in on her own.
After she feels like she can handle the situation and will act like everything is fine, she's back. The people around her never have any idea that she was even upset in the first place.
No matter what tragedy hits her life, she can always spin it to be positive.
She always finds the silver lining. If someone dies, she is calm knowing they're at peace. If her heart gets broken, it is a lesson learned.
People admire how in touch she is with her feelings, how she never lets the negative emotions get to her. But the truth is, she talks about the positive things because she hasn’t dealt with the way she really feels, she just pushes it away.
The last thing she wants to do is break down when someone asks her how she is doing.
She makes light of serious situations. Sometimes instead of finding the silver lining, she'll make jokes about it. She thinks that if she is laughing about the problem, people won’t realize how worried she really is.
Again, it’s another way of acting like she has it all together when in reality she is avoiding dealing with it.
The idea of showing someone she is vulnerable scares the hell out of her.
Do you ever wonder why she jumps from one casual relationship to another? And completely ignores the guy you are dead sure is right for her?
She will do anything to keep people, especially boyfriends, at arm's length, so she will avoid serious relationships at all costs.
It’s because she’s scared of that emotional connection. If she spends her time with people she doesn’t become attached to, she won’t have to deal with the pain if things don’t work out.
She's been holding all her feelings back for so long, that eventually, she's going to come unglued.
Maybe it’s after a shot of tequila she knew she shouldn’t have taken but did anyway. Then she’s at a party ugly crying on the couch, for no particular reason, yet for every reason under the sun.
Put your arm around her, and let her cry it out…and then never bring it up again. If you do, she will just tell you that everything is fine.
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