I have no interest in a guy who would be my entire world and change my whole life, just one who would make the life I had already created for myself even better. I’m just not programmed like that. I don’t need a guy to be my only source of happiness, I figure out what is important and I go after it, content with being me, and on my own.
I’ve been there before and it’s not what I’m about. I was great at landing a horrible guy and up-ending my entire life to be what he decided was “perfect.” I was so desperate for us to be each others’ everything that I didn’t notice I was completely losing myself in the process. And after that, I decided that I didn’t need a man to complete me. I started fresh, redefined the future I saw for myself and settled into a happy life with me, myself and I. That’s when you showed up.
With us, everything has been easy from the start. In some ways, it feels like nothing changed when you came because you fit so effortlessly into my story from day one. We never run out of things to talk about, we have so much in common it’s truly scary, and despite not knowing each other long, I would trust you with my life. I completely forget what it felt like to try hard in a relationship because, with you, it happens on its own.
I never thought I would find someone who cared so deeply about my interests just because, I was passionate about it, but when I’m excited, you are too. No matter what it is, big or small, you are supportive, tuned in, and interested in learning more about me and the things that light my fire. I can’t tell you how indescribably wonderful it is to have someone who pays attention and finds joy in my joy.
For so long I thought that being in a relationship meant giving up parts of myself so I could make room for the other person, but I haven’t had to compromise on a single passion. You never make me feel guilty for the things I do, or the adventures I want to take, even if they don't include you.
Part of you sharing your enthusiasm for what I love is that you’re exposing me to things I would have never pursued. Nothing makes me happier than seeing you happy, and it has given me experiences I would never have known I’d enjoy. I can’t help but wonder what incredible things we’ll do and see in the rest of our time together.
In my past, I was so focused on the guy that my other roles fell by the waste side, but with you, none of my other relationships have taken a hit. I wasn’t the friend or sister I should have been because fighting for something that was never going to work took up absolutely all of my energy. Now I actually find it easier to be there for the other people in my life, because I’m so happy and I want to share that with everyone I love.
I always considered myself a strong woman, but strength doesn’t mean I should have to face everything alone. Knowing you’re in my corner makes me indestructible. It’s not that I can’t do it without you, but I don’t have to. You’re not my knight in shining armor, you’re my cheerleader, and it suits you perfectly.
I’m used to pretending to be someone I wasn’t and feeling like even that wasn’t enough, but with you, I can be authentically myself. You accept me for exactly who I am, and it’s enabled me to be the best version of myself. You love me because I’m not perfect, not in spite of it.
I’m not naive enough to think that everything good will last forever, and I know only time will tell whether or not we get our own fairy-tale. But what I do know is that my highs are higher, my smile is never ending and with you in my life, my entire world is that much brighter.