When you fall for the girl who's been single for a long time and you want to take the next step in your relationship, you'll notice some differences.
She is a bit harder to read, a bit slower to speak on certain things, and more hesitant to trust than others. You'll notice that she's a little bit more independent than the average girl. She can also be a little bit more stubborn but she's absolutely worth it the time it takes to figure her out.
So when you date a woman who has been single for a long time - you need to know some things.
1. She is used to being by herself.
Some people think time heals all wounds, but that isn't always the case. She has become completely used to being alone. She has been used to taking on the world by herself and living solo.
Having someone who has been independent can be challenging, especially when she has done things on her own for so long. Remember that she needs time to embrace being with someone, and learn to have a couple minded focus again.
Be patient with her. Be patient with her heart, and take your time as she eases back into couple hood. It is difficult but I promise it's worth it.
2. She is guarded because of the hurt she has had to deal with in the past.
It is not easy for her. She has huge walls up because she has been hurt before. That doesn't mean she doesn't want to spend time with you...it just means she needs to take some time to learn to open up to you.
She wants you in her life, but right now she's in a place where she needs to keep her heart protected. She will let her heart reach out to you when it's ready, but it has to be able to trust your intentions. Never forget to show her you love her day after day.
3. She wants to let you in, but it takes time.
Love and affection can't be forced. It can't just be a thing you try and push on her. If she is with you, if she chooses you, it's because she wants you.
While she may not always be able to show it right away, she is looking for a future with you in mind. It's just going to take some time for her to be sure she is ready to fall for you.
4. She is scared.
She has been in difficult circumstances for as long as she can remember. So be patient with her as she might be a little worried about getting close to you. She might be having fears of losing herself to you. She is not sure of her sense of security.
Remind her it is okay for her to show her true emotions. If you love her, stand by her side. Remind her it is okay, and know her pushing away from time to time is not personal.
5. She does like you, but she might have trouble showing it.
She might not be too flirty, but just know that she is still working through the things in her head. She has been let down before and doesn't want to get her hopes up right away. If you are patient with her and build trust with her, she will show you that she is safe with you.
She needs to sort out in her head if she is safe telling you how she is feeling, but once she does she will never let you down. You will feel cared for and she will lay down her whole heart once you give her the chance to show you.
6. She is not used to having help, but when she is ready she will ask for it.
Do not be upset if she does not want your help with things in her life right away. It takes time for her to rely on other people. She is used to doing everything on her own, with her own two hands. Soon though she will ask for help if you give her room to reach out. It will just take some time to get her to that moment.
Remember: she doesn't need you, but she chose you. And although she's been on her for a while, she is choosing to invest in you.
She wants this journey with you, and if you know these things and believe in her she will be around for a long time. Believe in her and love her unconditionally. She knows what she wants and she picked you.
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