The best part about relationships is that first few months of dating. You feel the anticipation of your next date, those butterflies that frequent your tummy whenever they're around, and the excitement towards every new experience with them.
In the beginning, both of you are attentive, polite, and considerate of each other, and everything feels brand new, even things you've done a million times before.
But that new and exciting feeling eventually wears off. Once the honeymoon phase is over, it's easy to feel like your relationship has lost it's spark.
Let me assure you, that's not exactly the case. Your relationship hasn't lost it's spark, the flame has only dimmed as it can as time goes on.
Those exciting feelings that you felt at the beginning of the relationship? That isn't love, that's lust, it's what a fling is.
Real love is much deeper than occasional butterflies and excitement. It's finding that you're always thinking of this person while doing the little things during your day, it's knowing they'll be there through everything, it's dedicating a chunk of your heart to someone who deserves it.
You will learn to appreciate the little things you two do for each other, and soon, these small gestures will outdo all the grand gestures because there will be one bold and big thing behind them—love.
Recall the sweet times you have shared together and focus your attention on your partner’s positive qualities so you can re-experience the feelings that you felt in the early days of your relationship.
Find things that you both enjoy doing and then make the time to do them together. Maybe it’s engaging in an activity that you both used to enjoy— or trying something new.
Shake up your routine, be creative, be playful, be open and kind. Most important—be present.
Look for opportunities to stoke the fire. The possibilities are endless.
Love is not lust, it's about affection.
It's the feeling you get when you know why it hasn't worked out with anyone else before. It's knowing what his touch feels like, and how good it feels to be in his arms. It's about familiarity, but finding newness within it.
So, if you're in a new relationship and doubting it because the flames have fizzled out, don’t.
Everything that was there in the beginning is still there.
You just have to look closer.