Don't waste another thought on the guy who bailed without giving you any heads up. Seriously, don't spend even one more second thinking about what could've, would've, or should've happened.
It was never your fault that he wasn't ready to love you the way you needed and there's not a single thing you could've done or said to make him stay.
Because that guy is definitely not the one for you. Not because “if it was meant to be, it would be.” More like “why would you even want to be with someone like that?”
I know what you've been thinking since he unceremoniously decided he didn't have the time to answer your texts.
“What did I do wrong?”
“If I could go back, I'd change *insert trait/habit/etc he has absolutely no right to have a problem with here*”
“If he'd just tell me what went wrong, I'd do everything I can to fix it.”
“Am I seriously not even worth his words?”
While you're busy coming up with things you should have done better, you're forgetting one simple thing: his bad behavior is not about you. It never was.
When a guy ghosts you, it’s always about him.
He simply doesn't have the emotional maturity to handle an open, honest, probably awkward conversation about his feelings. Do you really want to be with somebody like that?
Do you honestly think that if he doesn’t have the communication skills now, he'll magically obtain them over time? That a few years down the line this wouldn’t still be a huge problem in your relationship?
Sorry, but that's just unrealistic.
He needs to work on himself until he's grown into a person who's ready and willing to put effort into a relationship. He needs to become a guy with the guts to have necessary conversations, even when they're uncomfortable.
One day, he'll figure that out.
But for right now, consider him a dodged bullet.
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