When you think the little things don't matter, trust me-- they do.
Everyone thinks it's the big things: the elaborate proposals, massive weddings, every large mile stone.
Sure, I won't tell you they don't, but the little things that happen or no, every day? They add up in the grand scheme. Think of each time you kiss as another deposit in a relationship account where each time it happens brings you one step closer to the goal.
Our love for each other our significant others is not a bank or trip, but in a way they are. Everything you put into a relationship is what makes it that's why there's the saying that staying in love, is work.
If your partner is being moody but you think it's nothing, maybe she (or he) is jealous of your video game console-- if she doesn't say that (okay and sometimes does say so), that's probably not the case. I know that I gripe at my mister for playing too much on his Xbox. I'm not jealous of his friends on there or mad that he's addicted-- heck, I'm the one that bought his second console for him as a Christmas/early birthday gift. It's not the Xbox, it's the time.
When I say little things count, I mean the small acts many take for granted.
It's the long drives when you actually put your hand on her leg (instead of vice versa) as you're handling the wheel.
When you come home from a job where you work third shift, and kiss your beloved awake so she knows you made it home safe.
It's cooking dinner for each other without being asked. It's when you stop for gas and buy a bottle of her favorite tea that's hard to find.
It's being silly with your love, trying to sound like Gollum from The Lord of the Rings even if it comes out sounding more like a fairy creature from Legend that goes with Tom Cruise's character on his quest to stop the Lord of Darkness.
It's picking her up off the bathroom floor when she's sick and her hair is matted to her face from sweat, drained of all energy, and carrying her through the house to put her to bed.
It's telling your Xbox friends that you need to make time for your wife, and watch Dirty Grandpa with your best friend you swore "I do" to back in October.
It's every little moment you show her that you care, show that she matters to you. More than an Xbox.
If it weren't for these little moments where would we get? How would our relationships progress in positive ways? You don't fall in love and get married just because it's another human being and you felt like it. You can't get to the proposal in the first place or get to the decision of moving in together-- without the little there can't be the big. Without the small parts, there's nothing.
I don't know about you, but the idea of my husband putting down the controller to take me on a hike is exciting. Or working extra hours when money is tight just to put a roof over our heads coming home exhausted with his head in his hands as he sits on the side of the tube and unsure he can go on but does it anyway for the both of us. To provide for us. That is why it's all important-- how else would we know we love each other.