Everyone says you have to be "strong." That you have to accept yourself and you have to try to remain happy 24/7. Instead of saying things like "Stay strong, it'll get better," we need to encourage mourning and grieving.
We need to remind others that it's perfectly okay to feel human emotion.
Life would be so easy if we could all just accept everything as it comes and be strong and not let it get to us. But we're human, and we can't. And that is OKAY.
There's a difference between being uplifting and being unreasonable.
Of course you should cheer someone up and help them when they're going through something rough. But also remind them that it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to feel like shit. It's okay to fall to the floor, curl up in a ball, and cry for five hours.
We tell people to stop crying, to pick themselves up and move forward. When we do this, sometimes they feel worse when they feel the need to let emotion out. They feel that it makes them seem weak to others. IT'S NOT TRUE.
If that boy broke your heart, scream and cry. Hell, throw rocks at his house if it'll make you feel a little bit better. If you failed a class, let yourself feel regret.
We're human— we're supposed to feel things and we're not made to be strong all the time.
I'm not saying to never uplift others; to never be there for someone that needs encouragement. But do make sure they know it's okay to not be okay.
Don't forget to remind yourself of that too. It's okay to not be okay.