I enjoy the scrolling through the "hot" profiles. God made people attractive so why not take part.
I enjoy going on dates whenever I choose, and if I want something more, so be it. It is my life, and I am not about to let anyone else have a say it.
If I want to swipe left so be it. If I want the free coffee or the person who holds the door for me, I'm going to let it happen.
My Tinder profile is bold, just like the kind of woman I am. And I want to be a person who dates casually or wants something more.
It is my choice and no one else's.
And frankly, I don't give a care in the world what you think.
The second you decide to take up arms and judge my Tinder outings is the second I'll dish out on your lonely self.
You don't get to call me "hoe", or call me a slut because of the number of people I see in a week.
Because the second I bring up the fact "you are waiting for Mr. Right" you'll get all defensive and remind the world of how much of an evil person I was to you.
You see me a certain way because of the number of dates I go on, or the number of people I choose to sleep or do things with.
It's ridiculous that you can't respect the way I choose to run my love life the same way I respect you for not having one.
It's a ridiculous double standard that actually hurts more than you realize.
It's not only demeaning to judge a person by what their personal preferences are, but it is even more wrong to think people can't do it to you when all you do is attack us in general.
And just like you have an opinion about me, and the "type" of person you think I am, I have an opinion about you too.
I'll let you know I am much more than you side gossip. And much more than your lame attempts at bringing me down because you think my life's goal is to "sleep around".
I hate to break it to you, but I am much more than anything you could ever call me. And much more than your dirty stares, and fake Facebook posts about loyalty, and settling down.
I am not one to point fingers, or call people out. But so help me if you dish it out, prepare to handle what I or what anyone else has to say about your life of over the top standards and teeming nights of loneliness.
I actually fall in love too quickly.
I actually have allowed people in before and gotten hurt.
I actually want someone in my life who I know will complement it well.
I about who I end up, and those who surround.
So maybe if you weren't so focused on pointing fingers - or pretending like you know someone based on their app choice you would see that I am not actually what you make me out to be.
Maybe if you were not ashamed of the type of people you let in. Or the mistakes you made, or maybe the hurts you endured, you wouldn't judge people so quickly.
See, I am okay with knowing what I want and taking the time out I need to find it. I am not lonely because I don't allow myself to have an abundant amount of ridiculous expectations for people.
Instead, I hold onto what I find important in a partner, and if I can't find it in who I meet after a couple dates, I move on. So don't be surprised when you see I can hold my own. When I dish back what you try to categorize me as.
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