Your "I have a black friend" defense doesn't stand.
Here you are telling people that you aren't racist because you got that one black friend who you haven't seen in forever.
Or maybe it's that black friend you "can't tell is black" so it masks your racist comments toward other groups of people because they aren't like their "norm."
Yet when it comes to talking about the nitty gritty of racial issues you are on the verge of dipping out.
You somehow think that judging a Muslim man who speaks Arabic and is a Muslim doesn't mean you are racial profiling.
Also, the number of times that Hispanic mother has been told she should go "go back to Mexico" hasn't made you want to stand up and say anything. So you just stand by and let it happen.
Instead of defending the very people who need that "white voice" ( yes I did say white voice), you encourage racism by simply not addressing its existence at all.
Discussing racism let alone only claiming its existence within one group of people doesn't make you a saint.
The fact that some white people decided to end the break of an institutionalized form of slavery doesn't mean the problem stopped.
Let's be real even though blacks have made progress oppression toward minorities really hasn't stopped.
Plus, those conversations people have tried to have with you makes you feel awkward still.
And while you try to have good responses to those kinds of racial discussions we seem to be getting the same sociological response of where racism comes from. So your little "I have a black friend defense" doesn't really hold up.
You probably need to know how racism really works.
Let's start with the fact that saying you have a black friend doesn't mean you are not capable of being racist or that you are not capable of supporting racism.
Like I mentioned earlier supporting the occurrence of racism means you didn't do anything to help people who suffer from racism.
And those of us who suffer from racism are talking about a far deeper issue than disliking or hating a group of people.
Institutional racism - which is still very real is what we mean. It is a system that creates a superiority- and an inferiority relationship between races, and ethnic groups.
So when people are conditioned into thinking it is okay - such as the case operated in media, and aggressive thinking.
A lot of the defense against this created mess from white people thinking that they are the bad guy.
They get defensive because no one wants to ever be seen an evil person who hates other people.
But here is the thing, people who choose to ignore racial acts, or say they aren't racist try to justify their actions by saying thins like, "I have a Black friend."
And when you fail to defend people like us - when you fail to realize that racism is an everyday issue but you don't take action. It is a slap in the face.
But if you can stop thinking about what people think, how they will view you, or if you are doing what is right - then maybe we can somewhere.
However, you are not in the clear if you...
Hold everyone who is a part of a said racial group to "black friend" standard just because you happen to know one of us.
And every time a microaggression comes out your mouth such as you don't see color or that "I don't even see us as black" adding it was a compliment...
It erases our existence - and proves you are not in the clear and have some thoughts of your own you should work through.
For every time you get scared that a person of color might steal your purse.
Or you think a black man is a "thug"...
Or simply group all people together - you are in fact racist of some sort. And carry biases that are harmful and need to be evaluated.
Having a black friend to carry around as your "token" doesn't make you any better than white person out there. Even the extremist ones you "may not agree with."
And having someone close to you of any color or group doesn't mean can't despise the group they come from.
You can show us kindness on a case-by-case basis - but I'm sorry to say you're racist af.
When you can view the larger group of where your black friend comes from in a collective positive light, that is when change can occur.
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