People who have a hard shell don't really let others onto their feelings. They seem cool and aloof on the outside, but inside, they're just like anyone else, wanting to be loved.
1. They blush on the inside.
Though they might respond to your compliments with a quick â€śthank youâ€? and an averted gaze, itâ€™s not because they donâ€™t appreciate it â€“ theyâ€™re hanging onto your each and every word. Itâ€™s just that they internalize it a bit more.
2. They prefer to show, not tell.
People often have this idea that people with a hard shell simply donâ€™t have any feelings â€“ but itâ€™s the depth of their feelings that makes it so difficult for them to talk about it. If they get started, they might just end up crying. So just when you think theyâ€™re off on another planet when you try to have pillow talk with them, theyâ€™ll be the first to graze up behind you for a spooning sesh.
3. Theyâ€™ll go out of their way to please you with thoughtful gestures.
Since theyâ€™re not so good at talking about their feelings, theyâ€™ll make sure to show you how they feel. Think sweet surprises, breakfast in bed. Or a text when theyâ€™re out with their friends â€“ anything to let you know you havenâ€™t left their mind. And arenâ€™t going to leave anytime soon, either.
4. They appreciate their space.
And if you donâ€™t smother them in the beginning, theyâ€™ll be drawn to you even more. Eventually, theyâ€™ll want to get rid of the space between the two of you altogether â€“ but they need to take their time to make sure they fully trust you.
5. Though theyâ€™ve put up walls, they're there for a reason.
People with a hard shell can often seem cool and indifferent - like they donâ€™t need anybody. But itâ€™s often an act theyâ€™re putting on to mask previous heartbreak.
6. They ainâ€™t about that tacky PDA life.
The thing that really gets them is a simple, powerful act, like holding your gaze in a room full of people, or standing just a bit closer to you so that your arms slightly graze past each otherâ€™s. Something invisible to others, but visible to the two of you.
7. Theyâ€™ll make you feel like youâ€™re in on a secret when youâ€™re out with them.
Their attention is reserved for a special few, but because of that, itâ€™s that much more intense. When youâ€™re walking around with them on a hectic street, you wonâ€™t even realize other people are there.
8. They know how to pick their battles.
Theyâ€™ll let go of the small, unimportant things, without letting them build up. But if they bring up an issue, it means that theyâ€™re really hurting about it.
9. If they fight with you, they really care about you.
The bright side is that if they do bring something up, they must really, really care about the relationship. Otherwise they wouldnâ€™t have said anything in the first place. But if they've tried enough and they still feel like they're not important to you, they'll retreat as far back as possible - to the point where your existence pretty much becomes irrelevant.
10. Theyâ€™re incredibly loyal.
At the end of the day, theyâ€™ll move mountains for you. Theyâ€™ll be there for the little things, like celebrating a promotion or a raise. But theyâ€™ll also be the one to go with you to the doctorâ€™s office or help you drive your first uHaul when youâ€™re moving into a new apartment.
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