There’s nothing better than meeting up with an old friend you haven’t seen or heard from in several years, but sometimes, picking up your friendship on where you both left off can be a little tricky. A lot can happen in even a few short years, and chances are, neither of you resemble the people you were when you were close friends.
If you’re invested in making sure the reunion doesn’t grow too stale, there’s a few steps you can take:
1. Neutral Territory
If you two haven’t seen each other in a while and no longer have much in common, pick a place where both of you will feel as comfortable as possible and one which will foster the conversation. Often, this is going to need to be at neither of your homes.
2. Avoid Small Talk
Seriously, don’t worry too much about the weather. It might feel awkward at first, but you two will have a lot more fun if you skip right to the meaty portion of the evening. You probably have a few years worth of catching up to do; don’t waste it talking about anything superficial (unless that’s part of the story, of course).
3. Drink (If You’re Both Into It)
Nothing curtails the awkward and loosens the lips quite like a few drinks, so don’t be afraid to meet at a bar (assuming you’re both all right with that). As soon as the alcohol kicks in, you’ll be surprised by how quickly you’ll be reminiscing about the old times and laughing like absolutely no time has passed.
4. Bring a Friend
When it doubt, bring a friend. Even better: bring someone with whom you’re both already acquainted.
5. Functional Gossip
If you both attended high school or college together, the conversation will very likely involve a fair bit of gossip, but make sure what you have to say isn’t something they’ve already seen on Facebook. If you have a good scoop, keep it obscure, but make sure what you’re about to share isn’t too damaging to any uninvolved parties.