Instagram is really a fabulous app for millennial and it serves so many unique purposes. For starters, it is a great way to showcase the life you want to perceive yourself to be living and easily make others despise you for having what they don’t. The reality of it though is that what you perceive yourself to be on Instagram is just want you want people to think of you, not really who you are…but that’s a whole different story for later.
If you are going to fall into the flow of using Instagram to perceive yourself as something specific, then why not throw shade at all the people who did you wrong with a lovely caption and a photo that says, “nothing bothers me.” Captions are a perfect way to throw some shade via Instagram.
For Throwing Shade At The Boy Who Did You Wrong:
1. “Silly me, expecting too much from people again.” – Unknown
2. “Don’t come back when you realize that I’m rare.” – Genereux Philip
3. “Some people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone, but that does not always mean they are supposed to get it back.” – Stephan Labossiere
When you go out with friends to eat or grab drinks, one of the most awkward and uncomfortable things to deal with has to be when the check comes. Especially, when you’re out with friends who are just a bit richer than you. You often times feel the need to cover the check in order to make yourself feel as though you’re not as broke as people think you are. But, other times, you think your wealthier friends should grab this round. It does leave a bit of confusion to some: what is the right protocol when going out with your wealthy friends? Does everyone pay just for their own meal and drinks or is the entire bill split evenly. Well, what if I order just a salad? Should I have to pay for some of your steaks. I didn’t eat it! Lucky for us, the people of the Internet have blessed us with tips on how to overcome this uncomfortable issue especially when everyone is wealthy, expect for yourself.
I recently watched all the episodes of “House of Cards” about wealthy people like the fictional “Raymond Tusk – multi Billionaire” …I found the portrayals very realistic for a change. Their lives are not so different from ordinary middle-class folks. Most don’t drive Lamborghinis, etc. How do I know about rich people? Well, here in Monaco, that is pretty much the only kind of people around: Wealthy people who have moved here and bought a small apartment for a few million Euros…Why? Mainly because their tax savings exceed the apartment costs usually by a wide margin. So most make a million a year or more. I also know a lot of new millionaires from Silicon Valley who live in tax havens like this. They can veer in either direction — big newly rich show-offs who got their lifestyle clues from old movies, or more usually, humble, low-profile guys.
Thus, to answer the question, this is the real “protocol” that usually applies: The person who has invited the other person for lunch at a restaurant pays. Cash or credit card. They don’t have special staff around just to pay bills. I used to always pay the restaurant & bar bill for a prize-winning journalist friend from high school whom I perceived as not having too much dough. Then, years ago, he said “I don’t need you to treat me all the time so we should split the bill from now on.” And that’s what we did after that. Then there was my stock broker and a few others who MADE MONEY from me: They ALWAYS pick up the checks. I never do. I think that is how it works with most wealthy people. If they work for me I pick up the checks. I once had lunch with a guy who must have expected me to pay. I would have — except that he ordered crazy expensive wine at $200 a bottle. When the outrageous “La Addition” arrived, I was not shy & said, “Hey, I invited you, but you can cover the $400 for the wine you ordered.” He actually gave me an argument and claimed to have forgotten his wallet. That was the last time I ever saw that deadbeat schnorrer (i.e. moocher) or wanted to see him.
If invited to dine at somebody’s home, we all bring wine or flowers — usually. That’s what you should do whether wealthy or not. It’s just good manners.
If you go to dinner with someone much wealthier than you are, it is good form to say “Let me pay for my share!” Your host will almost always say “No, you are my guest.” But don’t order the most expensive things on the menu or $200 wine if you expect them to pay. When a consulting client and I go to lunch or dinner & he asks me PT type questions, he pays. If it is purely social & I invited him, I pay. Sometimes we split. No special rule.
“The very wealthy, especially old wealth or “old money” as it’s sometimes called, have a set of protocols as second nature to them as splitting the bill is to us. The ones I have glimpsed are as follows: They have an arrangement with the establishment, whether it’s an exclusive restaurant or Harrods. At the restaurant there is no bill. It is just handled.”
“I’m not super wealthy, myself, but I have friends who are. And my answer is a little counterintuitive. They usually pay. But it’s not because they’re rich – or, at least, not directly so. It’s that they reach a point where money isn’t a big deal, so they don’t like to waste time and energy on these issues. I.e. “Let’s get the damn thing paid, and let’s get out of here.” Or, by the same token, it’s totally OK if someone else wants to grab the check quickly and without fuss or drama. Just as long as it’s not a Thing. “
“I eat out almost every day. Often twice a day. It’s either that we trade off: I buy one time, the person that I’m meeting with will buy the next. Or…If it’s someone that’s not as well off, even if they are asking for mentoring/advice, I pick the restaurant that I want to meet at, so I almost always pay.”
“Hell No. What kind of cheapskate do you want to be seen as? I figure that I make $2,000 per hour in passive income so as long as dinner for 4 or 8 or 12 isn’t $2,000, I figure it is no big deal. I have my own table at restaurants that I frequent. I have a saying “My table, my rules”. I almost never let anyone who is my guest at my table pay for dinner. I have allowed a few notable exceptions when the person invited me to dinner and they insist for whatever reason. I never split a check, I haven’t done that in 30 years.”
The leggings paired with sneakers and the vest give off the sporty look; as if you were about to head to the gym. But the blanket scarf and white long sleeve underneath the vest give off the cutie running errands look. Leggings with mesh cutouts give the look an even more girly vibe.
2. Sporty-Chic:
Leggings with sneakers, but all a plain white tee, baseball cap and denim jacket wrapped around the waist to give off a more chic look. This is a perfect look for a baseball game, or a casual Saturday in town with your friends, or a coffee date outfit.
3. Fashionably Sporty:
Who said high fashion couldn’t be sporty? Fashion leggings, like these faux leather ones, paired with a thick cozy sweater (perfect for the fall) gives the high fashion look. Just pair with a good old pair of sneakers to give off the casual sporty appearance.
4. The Sweater That Is Long Enough:
The best argument when it comes to wearing leggings as pants are using the excuse that your top is long enough to cover your bum, like in this look. Super long sweaters paired with leggings and boots is a great go to look for the Fall.
5. Bad To The (Sporty) Bone:
The mesh cutout leggings paired with sneakers take this look to a whole different level. The leather jacket with a graphic, edgy tee underneath creates this insane look. It will look like you up a lot more effort into your outfit than you actually did.
Love, as we know it, is a very difficult and confusing emotion to understand. Love, more often than not, tends to be mistaken for lust. Sometimes, it’s hard to completely tell the difference between the two. People romanticize love to be this all-consuming feeling that sometimes, we think lust – which is similar in emotional responses as love – is actually love. However, love radiates true happiness and most importantly, allows you to feel comfortable with yourself and your partner; whereas lust does not. When you are able to distinguish the difference between love and lust, there is no comparison to how great love really feels over lust.
1.
You’re In Lust When:
You feel like you have to “dress to impress” every time you are seeing your person.
You’re In Love When:
You feel comfortable in “sweatpants, hair tied, chilling with no makeup on” all the time.
Being in love brings that sense of comfort in yourself and in your relationship. You know when you are in love because you feel comfortable being in comfortable wearing anything – like sweats –without worrying that your significant other is going to leave you for the girl dressed to the nines next door. You feel like you have to dress to impress when it’s lust because you’re not trusting or sure of where things are going. When its love, you know you don’t have to impress anyone.
2.
You’re In Lust When:
You always feel like you have to tell your significant other what they want to hear in order to keep them around.
You’re In Love When:
You feel confident saying whatever it is that you want, and sharing your views and opinions with your significant other.
The thing about love is that when you are in it, you know that there is nothing you can say that will make the person you are with love you any less. You know that your significant other loves you for you and all that you believe in – especially your mind. You don’t have to say things to string your significant other along and keep them with you. There’s no lying between you, no sugarcoating.
3.
You’re In Lust When:
You don’t know much about their life before you.
You’re In Love When:
You know everything about their past, their family, and their history.
A relationship filled with love is one that is an open book. When it is just lust, you are so protective of the relationship and holding it together on a whim that you don’t even bother to hit the history books on one another. If you don’t know anything personal about your significant other than do you really love them fully for who they truly are? Probably not, and it is probably just lust.
4.
You’re In Lust When:
You look at your significant other as just that, and not your best friend.
You’re In Love When:
You’re significant other has become one of your best friends.
Your significant other becomes a best friend when you are really in love because it happens so naturally. If you do not look at your significant other as your best friend too, it could be because you two are in a relationship that’s surface value or looks. Lust focuses on this, rather than focusing on a future or something sustainable.
5.
You’re In Lust When:
You focus on living in the moment with your significant other and never think about the future.
You’re In Love When:
You think about the future and what your life could really be like together – long term.
When you’re in love with someone, you envision a future together. When you feel love, you want to feel loved forever because once you experience that feeling, there’s no turning back. Therefore you don’t just focus on living in the moment because yes, that is important too but, you think about a life together and things that can happen in the long-run. When you love someone, you value them as a huge part of your life. You don’t only think about how great it is now, but how great it can be forever.
Boyfriends really are such interesting characters. They can be so loving and affectionate one minute and then two minutes later, they are farting up a storm and engaging in the most annoying behavior that makes you question what you even see in them. Most of the time, we think they’re such adorable, handsome and wonderful people – and other times, we want to ring their neck. It’s a love/hate relationship. Sometimes, we wish they would just knock off the weird, obnoxious and annoying behavior but, they never truly do.
1. Burps out loud and farts for all to hear.
Seriously, can you not? I don’t know what boyfriend don’t get but nothing about this is funny or attractive. My boyfriend always rips wind and tries to make me smell it. Ew.
2. Over-uses weird sayings/slang all day long.
I’m sorry is that English or a cartoon language because I can’t understand you. What is “Skoo?” Are you trying to say “let’s go?” If so, where are we going? Why do you say everything is “Lit?” Why can’t you use normal people words? Get off the Internet, boy.
3. Never picks where he wants to eat.
It is highly annoying when all the pressure is put on the lady to decide where to eat. And truth be told, once I pick something he’s going to have a big issue with it. Guys always say that girls never know where they want to eat, but guys are indecisive, too. Trust me.
4. Wears his shoes while laying on the couch.
I forgot when it became okay to wear your muddy sneakers that were just out in the rain all over the white couch. Why are you so dirty? Who raised you? Can’t you f*cking take them off at the door?
5. Takes his socks off and leaves them on the floor next to the couch for like, ever.
Don’t get me started on when you finally yell at him about the shoes and he leaves them along with his socks on the floor next to the couch for a week straight. Why do the socks have to come off with the shoes? I will never understand. Your bare, smelly ass feet don’t belong on the couch either. And, can’t you put your socks in the hamper?
6. Wears the most bizarre outfits for dinner.
Not sure why you think socks over your sweatpants with sneakers is appropriate for dinner. Or, socks with flip-flops. Why can’t you wear a nice outfit for once in your life?
7. Never cleans up after himself.
Letting the dishes sit in the sink for three hours in dirty water has never been classified as washing the dishes. The bowls are still dirty being that they have been soaking in raw chicken water FYI.
8. Facetimes you instead of responding to your texts.
Texts are a lot quicker and easier especially when I am at work. I’m sorry I can’t sit at my desk and look at your face while you say nothing for an hour. Side note: long texts are the new love letters so you should probably get on that.
9. Puts his laundry in your laundry bin so he doesn’t have to do it.
There is nothing more disturbing than finding boxers in your hamper. I don’t wear these so why are they here? Please let me know. Do your own sh*t.
10. Picks up the wrong thing that you ask for.
If you ask a guy to get you something from the store, make sure you write down the name, the brand, the color, the size – everything. Guys just can’t remember. Ever.
Why would you ever think I would be okay with you being all over me around my family but nowhere to be found when we go out. PDA in front of the family should not be excessive. PDA when we go out – a little more normal.
11. Ruffles your hair just to make your bad hair day worse.
Running your fingers gently through my hair and ruffling it like I’m a rag doll are two very different things. Know the difference.
12. Forgets plans that you both made if it was made more than a day ago.
When you ask about the dinner plans you both made a few nights before and he looks at you like you are crazy. Seriously, get it together boy.
13. Uses your towel when you’re not looking.
I don’t want to use the towel you wiped your balls and your asscrack with to wipe my face after my shower.
14. Not saying anything when you are upset because “they don’t want to upset you more.”
FYI not saying anything when you know I’m mad just makes me 500 times angrier and want to chop your head off. Say something to make me feel better so I don’t flip out more. Learn to communicate like a person.
15. Doesn’t introduce you to people he bumps into at the grocery store.
There is nothing more annoying than being the girl in the background while he is babbling away with his long lost best friend from middle school. Don’t mind me here just taking up space. Nothing to worry about. I’ll just go look at these…canned peas.
16. Pretends he’s listening when he’s really not.
I know you say you are listening, but we know you are actually doing something else or thinking about something else. So, I do the “panini head test” and say random things to see if he realizes I’m saying completely ridiculous sh*t. Of course, he doesn’t.
17. Gives you his belongings to hold in your bag when you go out.
My bag is heavy enough as it is, your wallet can go in your pocket. Same with your phone. Why do I need to hold everything of yours? Maybe if you wore jeans instead of sweatpants you’d have more pockets.
It is a common story we have all probably heard one too many times already. Girl meets boy. Girl falls head over heels for Boy. Boy is not all that interested. Girl gets sad over boy. Girl wonders if she will ever find love. Boy is out there doing his own thing. Girl is heartbroken forever until she finds new Boy to pine over. There is even a romantic comedy about it. The entirety of that movie is factual and I stand by that claim. This story has turned into a vicious cycle that so many girls become sucked into. How do you know if you have become part of the cycle? How do you find the courage to fall for another person if every guy you fall for doesn’t return the love?
If he was really that into you, he would take any chance he could get to see you. Guys who aren’t that into you will say you two should get together sometime, but “sometime” turns out to be never. If a guy doesn’t make any effort to actually see you and you end up with a text-only relationship, it’s not real, girl. You deserve to be with someone who wants to see you and enjoy your company. Don’t keep trying to impress someone who makes little to no effort. Move on.
2. You always are the one to initiate a conversation between the two of you.
If you’re sending the first text, Snapchat, direct message – anything – every time, he’s not that into you. We all know how stupid we look when we’re constantly chasing after something we’ll never get. Do yourself a favor: check your text history with the guy you’re crushing on. If it’s mostly blue/green bubbles on that screen – it’s a red flag. You shouldn’t be the one always trying to get his attention. Let him come to you. And, if he doesn’t come to you – bye.
3. He will go a long period of time without speaking to you.
Along with texting first, you shouldn’t be having conversations with yourself. If you’re trying to initiate a relationship with someone, they should want to talk to you frequently. I’m understanding that life can get busy and messy – but you shouldn’t be texting an empty box. If he’s not answering you, or even trying to touch base with you a few times a week, it’s a major sign that it’s not going to work out.
