When Moving On Feels Impossible and You Just Want to Give Up, Read This

You are strong. I don't think people tell you that enough. Moving on isn't easy. You invested your time and gave your heart to someone you trusted.

Then, just like that, so easily, they broke it. So we're left here trying to move on even when the memories still linger and little reminders of them are present in your everyday life. There is no easy way to move on. No special tricks or cure to this ache in your heart.

That's okay.

You loved deeply and there is no reason to feel regret, guilt, or shame. Time. Time is the greatest cure because one day months or years from now they won't even cross your mind. Who they were to you will be a single memory. Do you know why? You will find someone better.

I know right now that feels impossible. I know you probably don't want anyone else — except for them. But why want someone who never valued you? Who broke your heart, who chose themselves or anyone else over you? You are better than this. You are better than them.

I want you to find things everyday that you love about yourself. The creases in your smile. The dimples in your cheeks.

And I want you recognize the things you don't necessary like. Or better, what the person who broke you, didn't like. I want you to realize every flaw will be loved by someone who values you.

Today, I want you to wipe your tears and I want you to choose yourself.

They gave you an opportunity and a period of time to be YOU, selfishly, YOU.

It's time to fall in love with yourself again. It's time to confidently walk away because your value to this world is irreplaceable.

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The Truth Is, My Greatest Fear Is Losing You

Every passing day, I fall more in love with you. You make life worth living. 

I crave your presence. I feel security when your arms are wrapped around me. 

Although, I need you to know I have this fear. I don't know how to overcome it. 

But I think to myself; even us, you and me, the two people who are so in love could maybe one day fall out of love…

I have these fears and maybe they will never happen but I need you to know. 

I've been broken in my past. I've been beaten down and left feel like who I was was never quite enough. 

And this fear is engraved in my being. 

I know we are beautiful together, I know we love each other with everything we have. But that fear will never leave me. It's not that I'm scared of commitment. I've seen even the most loving couples fall apart.

I've watched the people I've looked up to fall out of love every day. I don't want that to be us. I want us to be the couple that lasts. 

I'm scared that one day we'll grow apart. That you won't look at me the same as you do now. 

That one day you will walk away without ever looking back, I'll bury you and read your name engraved in a stone. 

I'm scared that one day you will be gone. 

I can't bear the thought, I know I'll never know how to live my life without the one person who made it worth living. 

Who I am, is every part of you.

Without you, I don't know how to be me. 

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This Is for the Dads Who Fought for Their Kids

If you’ve never heard of The Father’s Rights Movement I suggest you check it out. I suggest that you read the stories and understand what men face every day of inequality.

There are countless fathers working to provide for a child they hardly get to see. There are fathers who spend thousands upon thousands of dollars in court costs just to spend every other weekend or have limited visitations with their children. 

I know there are deadbeat dads out there. Men who refuse to pay child support with no interest in seeing their child but why do we allow these people be the face of fathers rights?

Mothers have done this too and most of the time, these mothers still has custody. 

I do want to commend every single mother doing it ALL on your own. I mean the ones whose father chose not to be in their child’s life. The fathers who aren’t fighting to see their child. I commend the women who are not using government assistance and who are relying on themselves solely to provide for their children. The women who work hard every day to do what’s best for themselves and their family. You are truly what makes America great again. 

There are so many fathers who do not get the credit they deserve because their name is trashed around. 

There are many fathers who are scolded because they left their children’s mother. They left a toxic relationship or whatever the case may be but these men DID NOT leave their children. In case you forgot, in many cases as well, the woman left the father. So these men fight day in and day out for their children. 

The problem isn’t of inequality. The problem is that the laws are so old that it doesn’t fit our society and our way of life anymore. 

Back then, living on ONE income was doable. Todays’ society two incomes barely make it anymore. It only made sense for women who stayed at home to get child support from their children’s father, if separation occurred.

The courts think that just because they are men they do not have the capacity to nurture or take care of their own child. In most states, child custody is automatically awarded to the mother, well because she is a woman. Whether she is fit to take care of them or not. How fair is that? 

All while the courts hand out and increase child support like it’s candy. Did you know that the state can take up to a minimum of 25% (usually more) of a man’s monthly paycheck in child support? That’s for one child. 

Did you know that child support is not a taxable income? So that money is free and clear to the recipient.  

Did you know that a father does not have the right to know where that money goes? No? We’ll try living with this inequality DAILY.

So what’s so wrong with child support? I mean a father should pay for their child… right?

Well, here’s the thing a child NEEDS their mother and they NEED their father. Why do the laws state that “he is doing his part” only by cashing out a check every month and hardly getting to see his child?

I don’t find that fair, do you?

The father’s right movement isn’t trying to ban of child support or take a child away from their mothers. They are fighting for shared parenting 50/50 custody. They are begging to see their children.

If you believe that women can do a mans job you better believe that a man can do a woman’s.

Think of all the people men and women who have 50/50 but STILL pay child support, of all the men who hardly ever get to see their children because they have NO rights to. 

Why are we not fighting for 50/50 shared parenting in every state? 

Why are we not talking about fathers rights?

Remember we are fighting for equality in America, right? So if you believe in equality… you better believe in fathers rights as well. 

I don’t believe this world is equal. I don’t believe this world is fair but before we start pointing fingers remember that both men and women are suffering because of inequality. 

Let’s start changing laws for men just as much as for women.

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Maybe One Day You'll Start Acting Like An Adult, Until Then Keep Talking Shit

There's a distinct difference between you and I.

I do not need to bash another then defend my character. 

Do you know why? I value my dignity more than my reputation.

An insecure woman will stir up trouble because she has to be the winner. 

A secure woman will do nothing because she knows she's the winner either way. 

No matter who tries to bring me down, I will never succumb to their level.

Tell whoever you want what you want them to believe. 

The truth will always remain the truth no matter how much you cover it up or omit the facts.

You don't scare me. You don't intimate me. You are sure as hell not superior to me. 

So continue to feed people lies, act like you're the victim and lie and say that I'm a monster.

Any sane individual will see through all the shit you pull.

But… you are the company you keep. 

So next time when you decide to cry and play the victim to get "likes" and condolences from people who believe your bullshit.

Remember to include the parts of all the horrible and unthinkable things you've said about me.

Remember all the times you selfishly choose yourself over the health and well being of the people "you care about."

Remember to tell them the whole story not just the bits and pieces of where I defend myself.

The way you present yourself says everything of what kind of a person you are more than me. 

Keep talking shit, you don't hurt me.

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The Man Who Values You Will Never Put Themselves In A Postion To Lose You

Ladies, I mean this wholeheartedly. So please take this to heart.

There is a significant difference between a man who desires you and one who values you.

The man who desires you claims the girl he's talking to is just a "friend" .

The man who values you doesn't need another woman to give his attention to, you're enough. 

The man who desires you wants you for what you can offer them to either inflate their ego or use to "get some"

The man who values you wants your support, your strength, and your encouragement for him to be better man. 

No man worthy of you will ever, ever make you feel less than who you are. 

When you know something isn't right, you feel it to your core.

Sometimes we ignore it or push it away because we don't want to accept it as the truth. 

We hold on to this hope that one day, maybe, just maybe they will come around.

All of a sudden you're left here trying to act like what they did (or doing) to you, isn't affect you. Aren't you?

They made you out as a fool because you honestly believed them. 

You are worth so much better than second place. Especially, to a man whose unworthy.

The man who values you will never make you feel like you're been neglected or disregard. 

They will lift you up, empower you, and make you feel even more of the woman you are. 

The truth is you deserve every piece of this love and this life. Never forget that. 

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To My Stepchild's Mom, Your Toxic Schemes Aren't Going to Work

When a child speaks, there is a blatant difference between the words that come from them, and the words that have been fed to them.

My step-son turned to me once and said, "I want to live at mommy's forever." 

Out of curiosity, I asked him, "Why's that?" He said to me "I came from mommy's belly and not yours."

When that innocent child looked into my eyes and told me that; in that moment, the words he spoke didn't hurt me because I know those weren't his words.

My heart hurt for him. My heart hurts for every child that is used as a pawn. 

He has been told that his father is not a parent to him, that he only needs one family, and even that his father's last name does not belong to him.

This innocent child's best interests are not a priority. What seems to be a priority is how to use him against us. 

No child should be told adult issues they do not have the concept of understanding.

My only question is how can you love your child if you're using them as a weapon?

I am disgusted that a child can be torn apart again and again by their own. 

As a step parent, this breaks us because we can't do anything about it. 

Every moment that child gives me random kisses, shares his blanket with me, follows me around, cries for me and tells me he loves me… it builds me up and it makes me stronger.  

This journey has given me love that was few get to experience; pure unconditional love.

No, this child is not mine. 

But I don't let them starve because "they are not mine."

I would never let them stay in pain and not take them to the hospital, because "they are not mine"

So no. I will never step down because they are not mine. 

I will continue to be the best step parent I can.

But what I can't change is the bullshit that he is being fed. 

I want to do my best to protect him, but at the end of the day, I would never turn him against his birth mother. 

What I will do is continue to do everything in my power to make my step son feel he is loved and cared for.

And even though my heart is full of anger, I will stay humble and kind, but I will not be silenced.

My fight for my step-son manipulated into thinking his parent doesn't love him is not over.

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If You Require Over A 10k Ring, You Don't Deserve To Be A Bride

Wait, what? He's going to have to spend HOW MUCH on you?

Oh, hell no. 

If you require your potential husband to spend more than $10,000 on a wedding ring, you are the lowest of low.

Who died and made you queen of everything?

God forbid you can't marry the man you love (?) with a small and inexpensive ring?

Oh, so you're worth $10,000 that could be used towards a home, or savings, or a retirement fund?

Of course, you are because "you're one classy bitch" or really… Daddy just never told you no.

Just a friendly reminder, marriage is about building a life with your partner and not expecting him to take care of you financially.

You don't tell your man how much he should spend on you. You just be grateful you have a man that wants to spend his hard earned money on your greedy ass.

Marriage is about LOVE, commitment, and selflessness not gold digging.

I'm not sure if that's a new concept for you or not but that's how most marriages work. Just throwing that out there.

You probably didn't know that cause you're too full of yourself to even care.

Oh, so you've been dreaming of your wedding since you were a little girl? Cute.

Again, just to remind you it's not about how big or expensive your wedding ring is or how beautiful your wedding is.

Be more concerned about how beautiful you want your marriage to be.

Marriage is the goal not how much you can outdo on your wedding day.

That should be the focus of all brides and if it's not yours, you do not deserve to be one.

The size of your ring doesn't mean your marriage is any better than anyone else's.

Paying $10,000 doesn't mean your man loves you any more than anyone else, especially the girl with an inexpesive ring.

Marriage is still hard work. Yeah, like you're going to actually work for it.

I know, try not to break a nail…

I hope your man knows what a prenup is because he's sure as hell gonna need it. 

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It's Not You, It's Me — I'm Finally Realizing You're Terrible For Me

I loved you with every fiber of my being. You were apart of me and who I was.

There wasn't a day that went by I didn't stop fighting for you. 

You made me believe that who I was would never be good enough, not even for you.

You broke me down so much It was hard to even love myself. 

It was hard to even look in the mirror and accept myself for who I was. 

Every passing day I thought to myself, "maybe it will get better."

I held onto this hold that you'd change into the man I need, the man I thought you were. The man you once were.

So I let it continue to happen. The emotional abuse, the constant belittling, and the all of the pain you caused me. 

So no, it wasn't you — it was me. You were never good for me.

You never once made me believe in who I was, was good enough. 

I couldn't walk away because I always believed that you fight for what you love,

I've realized that love never makes you feel less than who you are. 

My value isn't who you made me out to be. I am so much more than the lies you made me believe. 

I am strong. I am beautiful. I'm here for a purpose. 

You never once made me feel it. You never once made me believe it. 

So this is my goodbye to the man who will always be terrible for me. 

I am worth it. 

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26 Daily Thoughts Of The Girl Who Runs On Coffee and Cuss Words

1. I need a mother fuckin coffee  

*On my way to get coffee. la de dah fucking la de dah* 

2. Way to use your blinker…asshole.  

3. Is today a triple shot day? Nah I'm good. I'm not a weak ass bitch.   

4. I apologize to anyone in advance for my shitty behavior…I haven't had caffeine yet. 

5. No, actually I don't apologize…this is who I am.  

 *Walks into coffee shop* 

6. Wipe that smile off your bitch ass face. Wait. Did I say that out loud?

7. Still smiling. Okay good. Yep, it's definitely a triple shot day. 

8. You are definitely a weak ass bitch. 

9. Nope. I don't want to make small talk…

10. Please don't talk to me

11. Yeah… going to work afuckinggain… just like yesterday and the day before. 

12. What the fuck is taking so long? Did you go to Africa to get the beans?

13. You're only getting a dollar tip today. It's been decided. 

14. Where's my regular girl at? I don't even need to give her my order. 

15. Do I make eye contact with them or do I look at my coffee as they hand it to me?

*anxiety building up*

16. Better look at my hand or I'm going to spill it. 

17. Starting to drive away. Oh shit, forgot my debit card. 

18. Sips drink. All my pain is going away….

19. Three dollar tip cause your cool as fuck.

20. Thank you barista for saving me from myself. 

21. Why is this shit so good?

22. I bet I could cure fucking cancer today. 

23. Life is good.

*Arrives at work*

24. Hey, Karen! You look great today. LOVE those shoes!

25. Hate her… love those shoes.

26. Today is a fucking great day. 

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Stop Mistaking His Respect Towards Me As Him Being Pussy Whipped

Oh the ball and chain, because that’s all I am or at least that’s what you think I am. 

Not a wife, a girlfriend, a partner, or even a friend. I’ve been downgraded to “just pussy” or the “woman whose only there to make his life a living hell.”

Urban dictionary definition of pussy whipped: is a man who compromises his manhood in order to pacify the woman in the relationship for the purpose of maintaining access to the vagina. 

Urban dictionary for whipped: When a man is controlled by his girlfriend… almost entirely. To the point of embarrassment when his friends tell him his girlfriend has got him whipped. 

Thank you urban dictionary for that educated response. 

Actually, being pussy whipped is when a woman never allows her man to do anything without her consent or without her supervision.

The reason is because she doesn’t trust him and is so insecure about herself and her relationship she can only control her man. 

I guess what you don’t realize is that when we get into happy and fulfilling relationships one that the love outweighs the lust and the desire to build a life together, the need to do stupid shit and blow money at bars just don’t appeal anymore. 

He does not need “permission” from his woman to go out, to hang out, or to even breath… like you make it sound. 

Have you ever thought maybe he just doesn’t want to go out?

Have you ever considered that prior plans have been made and it’s disrespectful to change them just because you call an hour before and want to hang out? 

You assume he’s going to drop everything for you?

Have you ever thought that maybe “he always hangs out with me” because he enjoys my company?

So when he declines or when he invites me along… of course, it’s all my fault. 

Weird. I guess it’s like a totally new concept to be best friends in a relationship. 

You must believe that in order to have a relationship, we have to hate each other.

While you devalue me as “just pussy” rather than his partner, you consequently devalue him and the choice he’s made to me love and commit to me. 

He shouldn’t have to apologize to you for respecting myself and his family.

This is what grown men do. They make responsible choices. 

A grown man can do as he please but he also knows the consequences of his actions. 

So please stop confusing his respect towards me as him being pussy whipped. 

Respect is when he comes home at a decent hour to be with his family.

Respect is knowing that he cannot get shit faced because he needs to drive home.

Respect is keeping prior plans that you’ve already committed to. 

I let him make his own damn decisions and he is responsible for the outcome. 

A grown man can do as he please but he also knows the consequences of his irresponsible actions. 

A grown woman who loves and respect her man will let him do as he pleases because she knows her value and she trusts he would never do anything to disrespect her. 

That’s the difference between being pussy whipped and respecting your woman. 

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