Author: Alyssa

I read a lot of articles on here about girls who have had their hearts broken, and stomped on the floor by their boyfriend, or by a fling. Aside from reading it here on-line, I've witnessed it in real life more times than I can count on both hands. Even though the majority of these stories is different in there own way, they all share a common factor. That factor is that it always hits each girl as a surprise. 

It is as though they never saw it coming, and trust me I believe each and every one of you. It was in fact a surprise. You didn't see it coming at all, and let me tell you why. In the beginning of the relationship you were told everything you wanted to hear, and you were shown everything you wanted to see. Portraying yourself as perfect in someone else's eyes is a difficult task to withhold, and there comes a time to give it up. 

I can't tell you exactly when that time will be. Maybe he is  comfortable and knows that he's got you wrapped so tight around his finger, that the real him won't phase you. Maybe being Prince Charming got old and tiring. I don't know what took place to make that change happen, but we both know it did… and here we are. 

I'm generally a blunt person so I'm going to tell you the honest truth here. He was always an ass hole. From day one – The minute you kissed him, the minute you first looked deep into his ass hole eyes, and even the moment he first made you laugh. Underneath all of that… YEP you guessed it – He was 100% an ass hole. 

I bet you are probably wondering why, and I'm sorry but I don't have an answer to that. You'll never know for a fact that he ever actually loved you, or had feelings for you. You'll never know if he played the Prince just to get in your pants. The truth is that only he knows the answer, and that you don't need to know. The fact of the matter is that right now in these very moments you are reading this article, because you have been enlightened to the fact that he is an ass hole. That fact alone means something very important. 

If he is an ass hole now, then it doesn't matter what he was in the beginning. You didn't actually fall in love with the ass hole.. no no no. You fell in love with the mask the ass hole wore to make you fall so deeply for him, that he thought you would never turn the other way.  

But you can turn the other way on those ass hole eyes whenever you want girl! Do not let him feel like you are trapped, or like you love him so much that you just can't let him go. This only encourages the vacuum of his ass hole attitude to suck you up inside further. I know that you are thinking this isn't as easy as it sounds, or what if I really do love him. Sure, you very well might really love him, but hopefully what you believe to be love right now is continued love. By that I mean in this moment is it love or do you actually just love what you had before? 

I realize that I may sound like a negative Nancy over here,but I'm just saying if that ass hole persona is being displayed now, and you just realized it… Lets be honest it might be time to let that ass hole ship sail. You could haul yourself on board that ass hole ship and set sail into the white rapids – or you could watch it set sail without you on it. Truthfully the second option seems more appealing. 

So if you are the girl that is just realizing you fell in love with an ass hole, I hope you now realize that it wasn't the ass hole you fell in love with. You fell in love with something from the past, something that may or may not have been real, but it was something that's gone. What you see is what you get. Your life isn't a screen play, but if it were you are writing it. You get to choose whether you live the rest of your life trying to love an ass hole, or grab yourself a chair on the shores of sanity, get comfortable, and watch as that ass hole ship sails off into the rapids. The choice is yours! 

Why do girls expect flowers from a partner? Yes, it's a tradition but there's something deeper; somehow flowers have the ability to invigorate us to our very cores.

I found myself staring at an empty vase one day, thinking how beautiful a bouquet would look in it and lamenting the fact that I didn't have anyone to buy them for me.

Suddenly it hit me; flowers are readily available. I had money and a vase to keep them in, why I was waiting for someone else to fill it instead of just doing it myself?

The more I thought about it, the more I realized I had absolutely no reason to wait for someone else to give me flowers. After all, it's not like proof of a man is required for purchase.

I realized in that instant that I deserved to have a beautiful bouquet of flowers in my room anytime I wanted them. 

Honestly, I think we should all take Justin Bieber's words of advice “If you like the way you look that much, oh baby you should go and love yourself” literally. 

There are a million quotes out there about loving yourself, we're bombarded with them daily (if only from the Facebook posts of well-meaning relatives) but how often you actually love yourself? 

A lot of girls are raised to think they must rely on someone else's love to show them that they're beautiful and wanted, but giving that power to someone is dangerous.

You don’t need Prince Charming showering you with gifts to feel loved or special, those feelings can come from within yourself. If you don’t believe me, just try it once and see for yourself.

Purchase a bouquet of the loveliest flowers you can find and place them in your room. I bet you'll be surprised by how good they make you feel. 

Love yourself, darling! You’ve heard the quote “life is too short: buy the shoes, eat the cake,” well it’s time for you to do just that. 

Show yourself some love. Whether that means buying the biggest bouquet you can get your hands on or simply treating yourself to a nice dinner, you deserve it.