Author: Amanda Rossi

As we get older we go through a lot of shit, shit that we'd never thought would happen. Unfortunately as life goes on so does the rollercoaster. Some of us are exposed to mental disorders whether they are hereditary or something that we develop because of our experiences.

Unfortunately we do the best with the cards that we are dealt with and do our best to forget all the stuff that seems to be going against us. However some people just don't seem to understand how a simple thing no matter if you mean it or not can have such a devastating effect. So here's somethings you should never say.

1. You should kill yourself/ why don't you just kill yourself

Whether your mad at someone or you don't mean it telling a person to take their life is NEVER acceptable and you have no idea how a person will react or if they will take it to heart. Suicide is NOT a joke, whether you mean it or not.

2. You deserved to be hit.

No one deserves to be hit or attacked. Especially in cases of domestic abuse telling a person who already has self-worth issues as well as insecurity telling a person that they deserved to be treated than less than human. Abuse is not a joke and should never be made into one.

3. You're insane, crazy, stupid or any derogatory word. 

This really hits hard when it comes to a person that has a mental disability. As a person with a mental disability one of the most damaging comments a person can make it being called crazy. First of all most of us that have been diagnosed with something like that already think they are crazy and believe us we are trying our freaking best, we know that we aren't but we also try all day to prove to ourselves that we aren't. WE ARE PEOPLE

4. Never use our disabilities against us.

Yes, having a mental disability does change some things for us on a daily basis but that sure as hell doesn't mean we aren't able to be brilliant, creative and live normal lives. When a person makes a comment about our mental disability as being less or a person or lacking knowledge is completely degrading as well as completely untrue. 

To everyone that is suffering, I know it's hard to let go of the ignorance o others but to be honest anyone that strives off of making such horrific comments and making you feel less than a person is not worth it. We are meant to be individuals, we are not all the same, we have experiences, downfalls and rough patches but we all deserve respect. 

We all have those friends that have been around forever we're talking since middle school, high school or even earlier. Those friends have been along for your hardest of moments as you have been for them, but there is something that happens when friends drift apart and eventually it just ends. The blame game starts and the boyfriend is the easiest person to blame. I have learned that sometimes it really isn't all that bad to reevaluate relationships and the effect it does on my outside relationships as well as family.

We all know when it happens. You have had a best friend that has been with your through the ringer for pretty much every entire experience growing up. However as we grow up its inevitable that people grow away from each other and the same goes for friends as sad as that seems. 

As friends go their separate ways it is only natural for someone to go to their significant other for support. They are the person you go for comfort, love, advice and pretty much anything. We've all been told it's bad news when your significant other becomes more than just a significant other and they become the person to talk to. No matter how crazy you seem and how bad the situation is they are there. They love you and it becomes instant comfort because no matter how crazy you seem they're the ones that are there. 

This is to all the people that feel guilty about going to their s.o for support and their friends give them shit. It's not worth it and at moments of need, what you need is comfort & understanding. 

You both have had years of amazing moments that you would never take back, yeah you've had fights before but this one is the straw that broke the camel's back. 

Too many things have built up to repair the damage after this. 

You have different interests, your perspectives become vastly different, you grow into different people where your friendship starts to become something that just isn't working as well as it used to. 

This is one of the hardest splits, the person you went to for everything is no longer the person you can confide in. 

It takes a while for the wound to heal but when it does so many things start to come about. 

Whether it's suddenly realizing you're an amazing hula hooper or becoming closer with your family things start to look up and the small things such as arguments start to seem irrelevant to your happiness and not worth the effort any longer. 

You start to become your own person, pursuing your dreams or goals that had been brushed off and held back due to another person that held such an importance in your life before. 

You get to do whatever you'd like and be whoever you want to be. 

You don't have to hold back your tongue you can say what you want and believe in what you want. 

It's a liberating feeling. So for anyone who is going through a best friend break-up it gets better. 

It's time for you to become whoever you want to. 

Let's promise to never lose each other as friends.

Promise to always be there and just listen to the other scream about anything for a good 3 minutes.

Promise to be there at my wedding (if i have one).

I'll promise to be at yours.

I promise to visit you in every home you have my bank account allows.

As should you.

Let's be there for each other's kids and their kids.

I want to know you forever, I want to see you grow and I hope you want to see me as well.

Lets promise to take a vacation when we're older and retired and travel

Explore our bucket lists together.

You're one of those people I'd like to think of as a forever friend.

So this is my promise to you I will be there for you for every absolutely exciting and tragic thing that happens in your life as long as you do the same. 

Lets grow old together and have a friendship that truly will last forever.

It's been one heck of a journey.

At first you were all I knew, then I honestly didn't really like you until later on.

Then you became all I knew again, everywhere I turned you were there.

You were a huge part of my life. 

To be honest I knew we were never supposed to last forever.

As I'm getting older, my body just can't physically tolerate you any longer.

I hate the fact that I have to take a pill in order to enjoy your presence. 

There are others like you out there.

I will miss you dearly.

Sincerely,

My digestive system. 

First Off:

(Fun Fact for me We're Born The Same Day, But she's two years older)

Taylor's music has always held a place in my childhood especially in those awkward puberty stages.

She consistently evolved on the same time path in which A LOT of her followers also did, we grew up with her.

Her songs resembled the innocence we had in our early teens, then the fiery romance we learned we could have in our later years. 

She explored our ability to feel the rage of betrayal from romances that died for whatever reason and bring a side that still had that childish sense and ability to move on.

Then she brought us to the point where a lot of us ( or maybe just me) that reflects our love that we thought was the one and the heartbreak and stain it left on us. We jumped to her for comfort.

I remember spending hours listening to Dear John and Long Live with my best friend.  

Then we move on into which typically followed our college years, experimental, learning our boundaries and exploring our sexualities. 

Not only does Taylor tap into our love lives but also into the world of our friends, we all know we have a face for each one of her songs. If you grew up a T-Swift fan chances are you still are one. 

Why hide it?

Blast it and Scream the Lyrics

She still has Style, So do we. 

To all the people who I’ve made feel irrelevant. 

This is to say YOU’RE NOT.

2015 was hard. Heck so have the last 6 or so years.

The last couple have really done me in. So here it is: I am sorry.

I’m sorry for not responding to your phone calls, to not responding to birthday and holiday cards, to honestly being a ghost of an individual. 

I know it seems I have done a lot in which I have; I have seen a lot, learned a lot, and thought a lot. 

What I really want to get out is that I am trying to be more present, I am trying to be THERE.

It will take time, very small steps, but I can see the change coming. 

I promise to be a better me, a better version of me, because to be honest this one kinda sucks sometimes.

Stick along for just a little longer,

I’ll be the best version of me I can be.

The last about 8 years of my life has thrown some harsh curveballs. I’ve managed so far, The last 2 years has been one of the most challenging ive had to face.

Dealing with death way too much, parents separating, witnessing trauma you name it. As a result i’ve been diagnosed with a mental illness PTSD. 

As a result my life has changed quite a bit and it has been a very rough, rocky transition in life. People every day suffer with types of mental illnesses:ptsd, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and so many more.

I have noticed that I have lost people because ive become a burden and I may talk about it but its only because its my life now.

The people in my life now never question the validity of my state and no one should, and It has become in our society to not speak up and instead hide it.

The worse thing we fear is invalidation and in this world its seen as being disabled and yes it is a disability but we are fearful of how our peers may act once they find out. All we want is to be validated for our battles.

I will not be quiet about something that is such a big part of changing my life and neither should any of you.

If you’re like myself, you have been surrounded by people all your life, whether its been family, friends or relationships.

Constantly being around people can be awesome and especially if you’re an outgoing person its what you live for to be around people.

Sometimes something can happen in life that kicks your butt and can get you in a funk.

This is the time where you need to just sit down and take however long feels good for you to be by yourself, do something alone, take yourself out on a date, read or write, stretch, go for a run or hike, do yoga, a sport of any kind or even dance it out. 

It is okay to be selfish and do something for you, on your own without the pressure of constantly being surrounded by a ton of people. 

Now Im not saying go home and be a hermit for ever but being alone and finding something that you truly can do for yourself for however long a day can be rejuvenating.

It can fire up your passionate side, it can be inspiring, and liberating. So go be selfish and take some time for yourself.

Some people cant be by themselves but if you just try and take some time for yourself I promise it will be rewarding physically, emotionally and mentally. 

The last about 8 years life has thrown some harsh curveballs. I’ve managed so far, The last 2 years has been one of the most challenging ive had to face.

Dealing with death way too much, parents separating, witnessing trauma you name it. As a result i’ve been diagnosed with a mental illness PTSD. 

As a result my life has changed quite a bit and it has been a very rough, rocky transition in life. People every day suffer with types of mental illnesses:ptsd, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and so many more.

I have noticed that I have lost people because ive become a burden and I may talk about it but its only because its my life now.

The people in my life now never question the validity of my state and no one should, and It has become in our society to not speak up and instead hide it.

The worse thing we fear is invalidation and in this world its seen as being disabled and yes it is a disability but we are fearful of how our peers may act once they find out. All we want is to be validated for our battles.

I will not be quiet about something that is such a big part of changing my life and neither should any of you.