Author: Amanda Rossi

Everyone has those couple of people they know who snort, to many its hilarious. For the chosen few that have been blessed with this type of entertainment you will know exactly what I’m talking about.

1. We have tried to teach ourselves how to laugh without snorting

2. Most of the time its fails and it just escapes

3. You get that “OMG who snorted” and it was obviously you.

4. Trying to cover your mouth when laughing so that maybe it can be hidden

5. Getting that “OMG that’s so cute”

6. Getting used to you’re friends saying, ” yeah they snort when they laugh”

7. Sometimes being mocked by people because it’s just so cute.

8. Ultimately learning that snorting when you laugh is something to embrace because it shows your legitimately laughing 

Snorter’s Unite, let you’re piggy side come out and never be ashamed of it.

As women, we are told that we need to be fragile, non-threatening, silent, and in support of the men in our lifes.

Well as a military brat, becoming the (what id like to call strong independent self I am) also a sag, it must mean something

1. You dont need anyone to confirm your awesomeness

Not yourself, your friends, your coworkers. You need to believe in yourself.

2. No one can define yourself.

You’re awesome, no one should tell you otherwise

3. You  can do whatever you want, no matter how tough the battles are.

People will take you for granted, listening but not believing in what youre capable of… which is alot.

4. Don’t ever stop having a passion for something

People wll stop you, youre choice is the ultimate deciision, you’re capable of anything the world offers

5. You will beat them

There is an enormous amount of people that want you to fail… don’t let them. You will become the individual you are meant to be and anyone else standing in your way dosent want you to succeed because they know you will

Almost everyone goes through breakups, it's something that's almost inevitable. 

There is only a few that are lucky that don't have to go through this, but for people like myself having break ups when it was the one…. it's devastating.

As a serial monogamist, finding yourself in relationship after relationship it's an interesting thing to once feel such vitality in your relationship but then all of a sudden something clicks and it's like your emotionally numb.

Dear To the Person Who Has Made Me Numb,

Its been over a year now, you were the one that i thought to myself, my friends, my family,

you were the one. We had an apartment, really starting our life together, making plans for other apartment moves and decorations. 

Then one day after going away for two months the moment you left will be something that I will never forget.

Planned an entire day together, coming home and then seeing your suitcase and in that moment I knew what was happening… I was being left. 

Almost 3 years together, living together I was shocked. From then on trust is something that is not taken lightly. 

Feelings come and go and most of them go on and not recognized because I cant feel anything. 

I am so thankful for the time that could've been wasted and allowing myself to be free. 

I have one thing that digs at me is that there is always that one that makes having any type of relationship hard to maintain. There is a fear that people can just leave your life as easily they come into it. 

I will feel the way I did and you can't take happiness away in any form it may come in. 

You've ruined relationships because the ability to trust is overwhelming. 

I am not sure how long it will take but I will trust again; someone who is trustworthy and deserves my attention.

I will bounce back from this.

 For many of us the years ending middle school and starting high school can be rough.

For me, this period was pretty rough, first off I was a chubby short kid with braces since the 1st grade.

As we all know it can be hard and kids pick on others for pretty much everything. As growing up and being

twenty three, there are five things that I wish I could tell my preteen self.

1. You’re a preteen, you’re supposed to be at the awkward. Don’t think you’re all alone.

Whether your short & chubby, tall & thin, we were all awkward and kids can be rough.

2. Having a significant other (boyfriend or girlfriend) will not magically fix all your problems.

It makes it more complicated, I remember wishing at every 11:11 for a boyfriend because

that would fix everything and it definitely doesn’t 

3. You will not always be that kid you were in those years, you will grow comfortable with yourself.

I was a competitive dancer and i had my baby weight for a while, you will grow into yourself and

you need to just be comfortable with youself

4. There are worse things than not being asked to a dance, you’re life will not end

I remember I had way more fun with my friends than I did at most of my dances with dates.

5. Dont take in everything that people say, they can be cruel, but your happiness is the most important.

I got bullied alot, kids will be kids, dont take it personally because one day they will have to live with how they treated others.

As long as I can remember I have liked both genders (before I became aware of the many genders that there are). I just have come out to friends/family/colleagues within the last 3 years. I have had few relationships with women and most of my long term relationships have been with guys. Coming out as bisexual has been a very rough experience and to my amazement as a gender studies major bisexuality seems to be invisible. Bisexuals tend to be the most questioned about the validity of their sexual orientation.

1. The amount of girls to guys ratio of dating doesn’t invalidate a person as bisexual, there is no definition of how many girls and guys a person has to be in order to be bisexual

2. Just because you haven’t seen a person be with both genders doesn’t invalidate their sexuality.

3. Many lesbian women and gay men dont go for bisexuals because they “cant choose a side”.

4. Just because I don’t “look gay” doesn’t mean I’m not

5. People tend to think that bisexuals are polygamous. So not true, leading to people believing that because we’re attracted to both sexes we must be cheaters.

6. Boyfriends assume that women bisexuals are chill with threesomes… so not true

7. Some bisexuals prefer a sex over the other but that doesnt make them less bisexual.

8. You dont have to look bisexual to be one. 

to explain this more, a lot people have approached me assuming im straight just because of how i look that i could never be into the other sex. I have even heard from people about others ” oh yeah i could see them “being bi”

9. People asking “So Do you like boys or girls?”

10. People assumming and asking if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, use the word partner.

9. WE ARE NOT CONFUSED 

Suffering from any mental illness is extremely hard, I never thought that I would have to deal with one myself, but as life goes bad things are bound to happen. Suffering within your own mind is one of the hardest things to deal with as life as it seems to be a constant battle within that you feel you’re losing.

1. The worst thing you can do is invalidating my trauma, treat me with respect as you would any other person just because you can’t see my disability, and yes it is a disability and not all that have PTSD are war vets.

2. Understand that I will have bad days… a lot of them, if I’m trying to explain my feelings don’t try to personalize them when I get angry, explode or quiet.

3. If I seem like I’m being over dramatic or complaining, please keep that to your self and be the support system that I need or distance yourself.

4. If I seem irritable, stay away and don’t throw that in my face, because it will only make things worse for both ends, I already think I’m crazy I don’t need to be told that.

5. I wont always know how to handle situations or express my emotions, I want to be close to my support system but I’m in constant fear of judgment.

6. Don’t try to tell me that you understand because everyone is different and you cant even imagine what’s going in my mind.

7. I know I can be challenging and I fear losing those around me because of how unpredictable my days can be.

8. If I seem angry, leave me be and understand that for me that’s normal, because the last thing I want to do is have an anger spell and push you away.

9. I am not the same person, but I love you just the same even if I don’t always act that way

10. Lastly, if you truly want to be there for me there is plenty of information out there (http://www.ptsdsupport.net/relationships.htm) and please don’t ask me why I’m feeling the way I am because I honestly sometimes have no clue.