16 Wintery Date Ideas to Get You Ready for Christmas

Winter can feel really stale with the days ending sooner and the temperatures quickly dropping.

You can feel trapped indoors with nowhere to go and nothing exciting to do.

But if you think outside the box, this does not have to be the case this winter.

Don’t let the winter blues halt your love life, use these heart-warming date ideas to get you through the cold winter:

1. Ice skating.

Starting off with the classic winter date, go ice skating together. Whether indoors or outdoors with some nice scenery, go hold hands and skate around or race each other.

2. Human bowling

A super fun and quirky alternative to ice skating is human bowling. Some ice skating rinks set up life-size bowling pins and you take turns being human bowling balls knocking down the pins!

3. Below 5 bar.

If you’re over  21 and fortunate enough to live near a Below 5 Bar, it is a place you must experience!

It is a bar where everything is made out of ice, including the bar, the sculptures, and your drink glasses.

It is literally below freezing in the bar to keep the ice intact so they give you special jackets to wear while you are in there.

4. Skiing/snowboarding.

Whether you make it a day trip or over the course of a few days, look up winter slopes and go skiing or snowboarding.

A great adrenaline rush to keep you warm and excited.

If you don’t have any previous experience, you can both learn a new sport together.

5. Winter lodge.

If you’re planning a winter weekend getaway trip, find a fun cozy lodge.

You can make it a romantic getaway with just you two or bring some of your friends along too to make it a party. You can double this up by staying near a ski resort.

6. Play in snow. 

If going away is not within your budget or schedule, build snowmen, roll around, make igloo paths, and have a giant snowball fight.

7. Sledding. 

Whip out your sleds and tap into your inner child.

Find a local hill with a nice slope and push each other down or race each other. It’s a great adrenaline rush and super fun with no cost.

8. Christmas tree lighting. 

Whether you celebrate Christmas or just want to go for the fun of the festivities, Christmas tree lightings are exciting. 

People gather around waiting for the tree lights to turn on for the season and there are performances leading up the the lighting. 

There are small local ones and also huge tree lighting events such as the one held in Manhattan, New York every year. 

9. House light decoration drive.

Driving around highly decorated neighborhoods at night is stunning with all the lights and colors and arrangements.

Some of the decorating people do is so breathtaking and innovative and worth the drive to see in person.

Especially houses that are nationally known to go all out on their house every holiday season.

10. Hot tub.

Being in a hot tub feels so good, especially when it’s an outdoor hot tub in the middle of winter.

The contrast of the extreme hot and cold temperatures feels amazing and you forget it’s even winter outside.

This will instantly heat you up and will make for a really snazzy time together.

11. Romantic bath. 

If you don’t have access to a hot tub, get a warm bubble bath running and throw some petals on there and add some wine and music.

This will make for a really warm romantic time indoors. Treat yourselves to that long overdue bath.

12. Ice sculpture show.

Find a local ice sculpture and go, you will not be disappointed. It’s fascinating to see the art that people can make out of frozen water.

13. Cuddle and watch movies.

It’s freezing out and the sun is gone so we tend to feel sluggish.

If you two really aren’t up for even stepping foot outside, then do just that and binge watch shows or movies.

Make it extra festive if you watch holiday movies. Elf, anyone??

14. Game night.

Want to stay inside but also be active?

Make it into a game day/night. Whip out your favorite video games, board games, card games, and make up your own games.

Staying indoors doesn’t have to be boring!

15. Drinking games.

If you want to take it a step further, add drinking into the mix. Play some classic drinking games and look up new festive ones for the holidays.

Guaranteed to be a fun and warm night indoors.

16. Cook together.

Sticking with the indoors theme, cook something up together.

Make a delicious and warm dinner either together or combine both your separate dishes.

Whip out some hot chocolate with marshmallows to top it off.

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9 Ways Badass Bitches Start Their Mornings Differently

The way you start your morning sets the tone for the rest of your day. The more you get done in the morning, the better you feel about yourself, and the more productive you will continue to be as the day progresses.

So wouldn’t you want to hit the ground running from the time you wake up? Don’t you want to be a bad a** b*tch taking over the world? Don’t you wanna be successful and live up to your full potential? Don’t you want throw the middle finger up to your haters and crush your dreams?

If yes to all the above, it’s time to be proactive and take action towards embracing your inner bada** b*tch. Here’s how it’s done:

1. Plan the night before. Successful and highly productive people don’t just figure things out as they go along, they have a set plan ready to execute. They are prepared and ready for battle. This includes to-do lists, goals, picking an outfit, knowing your schedule for the full week ahead, etc.

2. Wake up early. Not only do you wake up on time, but you wake up early. You don’t hit the snooze button 10 times before you get up, you roll out of bed at the first alarm. And this first alarm is set up extra early with time to comfortably fit in your morning routine.

The early bird actually does get the worm. With more hours in the day, you can accomplish so much before the rest of the world is even awake. Now that is staying ahead of the curve.

3. Workout. If you wake up early enough and are up for a full blown workout at the gym, great! But you don’t necessarily have to go that far if you’re not up for it.

Even a simple morning workout in your own home is sufficient, be it yoga, stretching, a few strengthening exercises, or a quick jog. Getting your blood pumping in the morning pumps you up with energy and good vibes.

4. Eat Breakfast. Most people skip on breakfast because they feel it’s not an important meal or they just don’t have the time. But yes it is important and you need to make time for it.

You’re not productive when your hungry, and being hungry turns into being “hangry” (hungry + angry) after a while and we don’t want any of that. And then you end up eating more than you should for lunch to compensate. So please, eat some breakfast.

5. Read the news. Read the paper, read the internet, or read the news app. You have access to the news right at your fingertips and there is no excuse to not be up to date on current events. You don’t want to be stuck in a conversation where you clearly don’t know what’s happening in the world.

Stay relevant but also read up on news that interests you. This could be the market, cooking recipes, science, travel, whatever tickles your fancy. Don’t waste all your time pointlessly scrolling through social media.

6. Check your email. Make sure you stay on top of reading your emails. See what important updates you have from your professors or your boss. You don’t want to miss an important reminder or message. And this will also help you determine what needs to get done today and upcoming days. Don’t ever skimp out on checking your emails, it turns into a bad habit that could get you into trouble.

7. Update  your to-do list. After checking your email, you can add things to your to-do list. Update the list throughout the day and every day, and give the more time sensitive things priority. This will keep you focused and on task throughout the day so you’re not just floating by only to realize you got nothing done at the end of the day.

8. Set goals. Set both professional/academic and personal goals. What kind of grades do you want at the end of the semester? What advancement do you want to reach at work? What hobbies do you want to master? Where do you want to travel?

Write down all these goals and with a date in mind. Make them as specific as possible and check back on them often to check your progress and change/update as necessary. This is a reflection of the bigger picture of your to-do list and keep you focused on a future path so you have direction.

9. Look at motivational material. To set you in the positive and winning mentality looking at motivational material works like a charm. Whether its quotes, videos, articles, or pictures, find something that stirs your energy and passions.

Having your own personalized motivational board to look at every day helps you bring your vision to life. The more often and clearer you can picture your goals and desires and passions, the more driven and successful you will be.

 While most people wake up late, rush to get ready, waste time on social media, and feel grumpy in the morning, you’ve mastered the art of becoming a successful morning person. This will help shape your life into a healthier, happier, more successful future.

Now go take over the world.

10 Traits of the Girl with High Functioning Anxiety

Anxiety is a very debilitating condition. Whether it's for rational or irrational reasons, fear can shut you down mentally and physically.

While anxiety is oftentimes hard to control, we still have to pull through to attend to life and its responsibilities. Often, this very reason is what keeps anxious people's minds in constant motion and off their anxiety. 

We may seem and feel crazy, but we've managed to find a way to productively release it through our Type A personalities. Here are some of the traits of the girl with high functioning anxiety:

1. Perfectionist. You never understand people who half-a** anything. You put all your blood, sweat, and tears into everything you do and will not rest until it is up to your high standards. 

Everything you do is a representation of yourself and you always present yourself with your best foot forward. 

2. Always on time. Fashionably late is not in your vocabulary. You show up early all the time because running late gives you anxiety. 

Your mind is racing with thoughts about what will happen if you are late, how people will feel, what you will miss, and you would just much rather be too early than deal with that stress. You are always in a hurry and on the move. 

3. Workaholic. When it comes to work or school, you work pretty d*mn hard.

This often the result of you being a perfectionist, loving your job/major, and to escape your anxious thoughts. We often don't like to be alone with our racing minds and drowning into work or hobbies is a productive escape. 

Plus you're extremely nervous about what would happen if you didn't work hard. 

4. Passionate. When you have a knack for something or find something you are passionate about, you become the master of your craft. 

Since you're a perfectionist and since you put all your soul into something when you like it,you spend a lot of time on it and excel at a rapid rate. 

5. Lists. Your life needs to be in order for you to function, and you do this through lists and calendars and reminders. 

You probably have lists for lists for lists, and no it's never too much. Everything needs to be written down and planned out. 

Even if plans change along the way, at least you have a plan to fall back on and guide you. 

You worry about forgetting something or having things not go according to plan, so you write it all down. Including all backup plans. 

6. Always busy/full schedule. You hate feeling like you are lazy and just floating aimlessly with no plan. You have a set schedule and you follow it. 

You can always adjust as you go, but you need to have a baseline. 

There is no better feeling than being productive and crossing something off you to-do list or bucket list. It's your hit, and you need to have it. 

Plus being busy all the time serves as a distraction from racing thoughts, but at least you release this in a productive outlet.

7. Team no sleep. While many people enjoy sleeping for hours on end and taking sporadic naps, you opt out of excessive sleep. 

You would much rather be awake and doing something productive or doing something you enjoy. 

Sleeping often feels like a waste of precious time, but you unfortunately need it to survive and be productive the next day so you make sure you sleep enough to function. 

8. People-pleaser. You hate it when you make people unhappy or disappoint them.

While at the end of the day you will make whatever decision is best for you,you take other people's feelings and opinions into consideration. 

Even when you stick to your guns, you still have that nagging feeling deep down knowing it made someone unhappy. 

9. Physical ticks. Because you are nervous and anxious inside, you develop subtle"ticks." 

Whether it's nail biting, an eye twitch, tapping your foot,or cracking your knuckles, you have a habit that you usually don't realize you do until someone points it out to you. 

These habits are hard to break and once you break one, you're onto the next one. 

10. You love hard.Falling in love is scary as f*ck and you love really hard. 

Your feelings for someone travel deep and you're scared to death of having your heart broken, especially when you've already been taken advantage of in the past. 

You worry about every little detail and are paranoid about a whole bunch of scenarios when you like someone. But when you find someone who will treat you right, you love unconditionally with no limits. Because you know no other way. 

29 Thoughts You Have When You Can't Get Your Ass Out of Bed

There’s people who thrive in the morning and hit the ground running. And then there’s people who can barely form a full sentence in the first few hours of the morning, let alone be energized and a functioning member of society.

Sure the early bird may get the worms, but they lose those glorious precious hours of beauty sleep. If you’re not a morning person, then this thought process will be all too familiar:

1. Ughhh that sound…what is that sound?

2. Oh that’s my alarm.

3. Alright let me just snooze it for 5 minutes.

4. Maybe 15.

5. I’ll just cut my morning routine in half. That should be quick enough to do the trick.

6. F*ck I was supposed to be up an hour ago.

7. Okay now I really do have to cut corners getting ready.

8. It’s fine, who needs breakfast anyway? Lunch is where it’s at.

9. Shower? Do I really need to shower? Can’t I just shower later tonight?

10. Okay 5 minute shower so I don’t feel like a repulsive human being.

11. Why is my hair not cooperating? Why must I have long hair?

12. I’m going to just chop it all off. 

13. Until then, ponytail.

14. F*ck I’m hungry, just don’t think about it.

15. Why do I suddenly hate everything in my closet?

16. Okay, I’m probably going to be like 10 minutes late.

17. It’s fine I know three alternate faster routes.

18. Because this is who I am and this happens all the time.

19. I finally found an outfit! 

20. I hate it, but I am clothed and it will have to do for now.

21. Oh good, my phone is dying and on 20% battery.

22. Oh my god look at the time! Now I’m going to be 20 minutes late.

23. Being late makes me so anxious. 

24. Why do I do this to myself?

25. I need to book it. 

26. And I need to come up with a good excuse for why I’m late. 

27. I swear I’m a functioning adult. But like why does the world start so early?

28. How do people have time to workout in the morning? 

29. Maybe one day I’ll be a morning person. But that day is not today.

This Is How Being in Love With You Brightens My Whole World

An old face made anew, you came out from the doldrums of my life and into the spotlight. How we overlooked each other remains a mystery, but I hope you never fade back. 

The late hours of my nights are spent exchanging texts with you until my tired eyes slowly fade shut. Conversations about everything and nothing that make me laugh and keep me giddy. Talks that color my soul and make my dark past fade away to mere memory. 

I fade into a blissful sleep with a smile on my lips as your face and words dance around in my thoughts. Even when I'm deep in slumber, you remain at the forefront of my thoughts and never leave.

You set my dreams on fire as you look for a place to settle within my soul. I welcome you inside without hesitation, my soul is your home. Stay for a while and make yourself comfortable. 

As I open my sleepy eyes in the morning, you instantly glide across my slowly awakening conscious before any other thoughts. That same smile I fell asleep with is restored. As if it even left throughout the night at all. 

I am looking at the world through heart-shaped eyes and a crooked smirk. I notice a change in my being. I realize how you are influencing my life and what I am feeling. 

This feeling is familiar and foreign, but I instantly recognize it. I am in love, without any room for denial, and I let it take over. I let it lift me up and color my universe.

This time is wildly different from all the others. I try to put heavy meaning into this overused phrase. I am not in lust, I am not in comfort, I am in love. All similar and intertwined, but vastly different categories. 

Your face a vivid picture, your voice a resonating sound, and your scent a wandering aroma. I can almost bring you to life with just my thoughts. I can feel you here when you are nowhere close.

You excite me and put me at ease. You comfort me and take me out of my comfort zone. You are everything familiar and new. You are a best friend and a lover. You are a logical paradox of what a love should be.

I don't quite know how to thank you enough for your presence. Just simply being in your space makes my life a better place. Your aura naturally heals my scars, your authenticity is everything I've always craved. 

You closed the old chapter of my dark life and reopened a story that has no end. I have become a new richer version of myself and my life has forever changed for the better. 

Thank you for being alive, thank you for being you.

To My Friend Going Through a Dark Time

Dear friend, 

I’ve watched you suffering, having mental breakdowns, and crying yourself to sleep every night for months. I’ve seen the light wane from your eyes and the energy drained right out of you. 

I see you in this pain, and all I want to do is take it away from you. You see yourself in a dark abyss with no light at the end of tunnel, but I will walk right beside you until we find your light again together. 

You see the all the different ways you wish your life were different, you are hard on yourself that you are not where you want to be, and you feel alone with nobody to understand you. You feel the heavy weight of your emotions on your shoulders and you just want to take a rest. 

It’s okay to not feel your best and it’s okay to ask for help. You are never a burden for feeling heavy emotions. You are human going through human struggles. Everyone has internal battles and demons to fight that you may not know about. And true friends will always be there through these times. 

I am here for those moments you need someone to lighten the weight. I am here to listen when you need to spill your emotions, I am here as a shoulder to cry on. Just know you can rely on me as your emotional support system and I promise I will never let you down. 

I am here to remind you of your worth when you forget. I see a beautiful girl who is so unique and unlike the others. You have a big heart for everyone you love, you are creative and talented, you are charismatic, and you lighten up the lives of people around you. Now you need to remember how to lighten up your life too. 

You’re one of the best friends I’ve had in my life and I am so thankful that you get to bless me with your presence. You’ve been there for me when I was going through a hard time and you made my day better. I laugh hysterically whenever we’re together and you make mundane moments so much fun.

I see the strong person that is going to come out at the end of the tunnel. The more confident, the stronger, the refined version of yourself and everything you’ve always wanted to be. You have that power inside you right now, and you hold the key to unleashing it at any moment. 

Everyday that you wake up and leave your room, every time you are done crying, every time you reach out for help, that is you being strong. You are a fighter and you fight everyday. Going through a difficult time is not supposed to be easy, but what matters is your determination and perseverance. 

You are closer to and more capable of ending this dark era than you think. Even though you have a hard time seeing any of this right now, I am here to constantly remind you of everything that you are and can be. I will never leave your side and you will never walk this journey alone. 

I love you, everything will be just fine. 

9 Traits of the Girl With OCD, Who's Still Chill AF

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is sometimes misunderstood. It’s not all bad, and not everyone with OCD is “crazy” or even obvious to spot. 

But a lot of times people with OCD are just chill, normal people. We’re easy to get along with, we’re easy going, and we’re social butterflies. Sometimes people don’t even realize you have OCD because they’re looking for stereotypical signs.

Here are some of the ways chill people have OCD:

You’re a perfectionist. Everything you do must be with the goal of striving for perfection. You don’t understand how people can half a** anything because you put all of yourself into everything. 

You can’t live with yourself knowing that you could have done better. And it is so much more satisfying in the end when you know you’ve put in all your effort and see results.

Everything must be in order. Clutter and dirt are your worst nightmares. When there’s clutter, whether it’s your own or someone else’s, you immediately start organizing it. And when something is dirty, you just have to clean it. 

You cannot stay in a messy environment for long. You either fix it or leave it as soon as possible. Whether it’s physical space, your emails, or your physical appearance.

Your physical appearance is tidy and clean. When you see other people with dirty finger nails, smelly breath, disheveled hair, or look like they got dressed in the dark, you cringe. You look at them and think of all the ways you want to help. Every inch of your own body is clean and groomed, and you care about having a tidy physical appearance. Not only for aesthetic purposes, but also for hygienic purposes.

When you find a new hobby you love, you throw all of your energy into it. You spend all your time either thinking about it or doing it. Because of this, you become a master of your craft and excel at such rapid rates. 

People are always astonished how you can pick something up and become so good at it so fast. It’s in your nature, if you love it you will become the master of it.

When it comes to school/work, you are a workaholic. Getting started on your work may be difficult, but once you start you dive all in and don’t come back up for air for hours. 

While people say it’s more efficient to take more breaks, you just keep working because once your on a roll your efficiency seems to keep skyrocketing until you crash, which may not be for hours on end.

When you like someone, you reallyyyy like them. It’s scary. Like everything else in your life, you become obsessed with them. You’re constantly either talking to them, talking about them, being with them, checking their social media for the 100th time, or daydreaming about them. 

You don’t understand how people can cheat because once you really like someone, you are all in. You are a very loyal friend and companion. Once in a while you need to step back and refocus on other parts of your life so that you don’t go overboard. 

When you’re anxious, it is debilitating. You obsess over the same anxious thoughts over and over as they keep amplifying in your mind. It’s a vicious cycle that becomes very difficult to break out of so you’re always doing something to distract your mind from wandering thoughts. It’s hard for us to sit still and not be preoccupied doing something.

When you develop a good or bad habit, it sticks around for a long time. As someone with OCD, you tend to obsess and repeat the same actions or processes over and over. So when you develop a bad habit, it becomes hard to break because your mind is wired to keep repeating it. But on the flip side of the coin, once you work through and develop good habits, you really keep up with them and people are impressed.

You have physical “ticks ” that you find yourself doing throughout the day. Whether it’s twitching your eye or or tapping something a certain amount of times or biting your nails and pens. You forget you’re doing them because they’ve become second nature, until other people point them out. 

Once you break out of one physical tick, you develop another. It’s a hard habit to break because we always need to be moving and doing something. And it is often as a result of feeling anxious.

Whatever it is that has grabbed your attention and passion, you always put 110% into it. You know no other way, but you don’t exactly want to change it. You embrace your crazy passionate self and when directed properly, you can be invincible.

A Letter to My Best Friends

Dear best friends,

You girls mean everything to me. You are my rock, you are my support system, you are my partners in crime, you are my family. 

I’m not sure it’s even possible to hang out together and have a mundane day. You can always expect the unexpected to happen when he hang out. Without fail, our seemingly regular day turns into an adventure and I really wouldn’t have it any other way.

I still haven’t figured out if its our dynamic together gets us in weird scenarios, or if we attract said weird scenarios, or if coincidentally we just happen to be in the right places at the right time every time. But it’s all these crazy situations that give us great stories to tell and reminisce on. Some we even take to the grave.

We have countless ugly pictures and strange videos that if ever went viral we would have to relocate. How many layers of chins can you fit into a selfie? A lot….more than normal…more than you think is humanly possible. And we’ve got plenty black mail photos to prove it to all future boyfriends. Including embarrassing stories to top it off.

Our families have become each other’s extended families. We eat dinner together, sometimes we go into your fridge cause we know where things are, and we bicker with your siblings like they’re our own. And we all mutually own each other’s pets. We’re around them so much your pets might not even know the difference between us and your actual family anymore. 

We’ve seen each other at our best, and we’ve definitely seen each other at our worst. With ugly cry faces and makeup smearing. Not showered, unshaven, makeup-less, and bum clothes. Had we not known each other well, we could pass for a hobo to the public eye. 

We’ve also been there through all of the heartbreaks and mental breakdowns throughout the years. We know what makes us tick, what our weaknesses are, and also how to turn it all around and cheer each other up.

Anybody that f*cks with our friends is going to have to deal with us afterwards.Thank you guys for picking up my broken pieces and helping me put them back together. You remind me how special I am whenever someone breaks my heart. After I vent, you remind me that I deserve a guy who appreciates and treats me as amazing as you guys do. 

And then we laugh about how we’re going to punch them in the face and how all his other hoes are ugly. We’ll proceed to have a glass of wine and get weird and laugh hysterically until we cry and pee our pants (sometimes literally). I’ll forget why I was even heartbroken in the first place. How can I be so sad when I have such amazing, weird, hilarious friends? Do I even need a man??

And the same goes for all of you. Whenever someone breaks your hearts, I cannot begin to fathom what is wrong with them and how they can’t see what a f*cking delight you are. Seriously. And I will constantly remind you until it gets through to your thick heads. 

And because of said bad experiences, any new future boyfriends or friends you make must go through our approval so that we can make sure they are good enough for you. We have high standards for each other, because we know how legendary we are. 

Even if sometimes we get on each other’s nerves and we have our occasional misunderstandings, at the end of the day I know we will be best friends forever. 

Plus, we all know what too much about each other at this point, so really we have no choice in the matter. 

Red Flags of Narcissistic Personality

In my experience if something feels like it's off, that's because it probably is. Just because someone is an a**hole or selfish doesn't mean they are a Narcissist. It is a specific disorder and can be hard to pin-point at first.

Narcissists are very charming and exciting people at first, but after getting to know them they are very draining and in extreme situations dangerous.

You might find Narcissists to be people you never expected. These people can be your family, your friend, your boss, your coworker, or your significant other. If you suspect someone is a Narcissist, here are signs to be on the lookout for:

Is very charming.
When you first meet them you're blown away by their charisma. They know all the right things to say to all the right people. They know how to read people and alter their personality to get people to like and trust them.

Thinks and talks very highly about themselves.
When the narcissist is talking about themselves (which is often) it is always in a grandiose fashion. They think they are the best and dominate at everything, and want you to know it too. They'll praise themselves, often bragging and exaggerating about their accomplishments. 

Feels entitled.
Since they think they are the best, they feel entitled to things simply because of this fact. They feel they deserve the best lover, the best position in the business, the best lifestyle. They think everyone else is below them and not as worthy of such high levels of power and success as them. 

Needs excessive admiration and compliments.
Narcissists live to be admired. They don't just want praise, they need it. They need to be constantly fed compliments because of their high sense of self. If you cannot provide this for the narcissist and think otherwise, they will reject your existence because their fragile egos cannot handle it. Because you're obviously crazy that you can't see their worth. 

Stays friends with their exes.
Now it's fairly common for some of us to still stay friends/acquaintances with our exes. But narcissists take this to a-whole-nother level. They collect all people from their past and create a harem. Everyone from casual hookups to past relationships to potential future interests, and everyone in between that they can use again at some point in the future.

They keep frequent tabs on all people in their harem and when in a dry spell, will toss the current person into the harem and it will be another person's turn from within the harem. They get bored very easily and will go through frequent rotations. 

Lacks morals and remorse.
Narcissists are just that, narcissistic. They are selfish people and don't care about your feelings as long as they are doing whatever makes them happy. They will pretend they care, but they don't even have the capability to care for others and feel empathy, as they lack remorse for their actions. 

They know right from wrong by what society has told them, but they cannot truly feel the difference. This why they can do something extremely hurtful without batting an eye or second thoughts. 

Is very impulsive.
They can be very exciting people to be around. They tend to love spontaneity and adrenaline rush experiences. They get bored extremely easily with the status quo and need to get their next adrenaline hit. As lovers they are addicting to be around but then a nightmare when they decide you've lost your luster and they need to chase someone new. They act upon what they feel in that very moment without much thought behind it, which sometimes can get them in trouble.

Has sharp mood swings.
Narcissists are emotionally unstable. It doesn't take a lot to sharply shift from a happy pleasant person to a raging nightmare. They are always on the edge of a breakdown when something goes wrong. They are not emotionally strong and become very angry and depressed. They can even be dangerous to be around when they have mental breakdowns. 

Hates authority.
They are the best, why should anybody be above them? They despise authority figures and quite frankly, reject their authority entirely and do as they please. Nobody can tell them what to do. At first glance this can be seen as confidence and strong sense of self, but it goes much deeper than that. 

Belittles you.
In order to keep control over you, they make you feel worthless. Like it is a privilege someone so grand as themselves is even considering keeping such an average person like yourself in their company. Everything you do and are will be dismissed or undermined in their eyes. 

Is envious and competitive.
Their fragile egos can't stand seeing others be happy and successful. They'll put on a fake smile and pretend they're happy for others, but inside they are raging with hate and jealousy. They must be the best and the center of attention to feel satisfied.

Contradicts him/herself.
They are really big liars and manipulators. This is why they are contradicting their stories, their opinions, and their personalities. They change up what they say based on who they are talking to, when they are talking to them, and how they feel in that moment. They're not honest people, so consistency will always be lacking.

Is pessimistic.
Being so jaded and miserable all the time, they have a pessimistic view on life. They project themselves onto other people and don't trusts. They are deeply unhappy within themselves and cannot form deep connections or feelings of intimacy and love. They often walk a sad and lonely road in life as they stand in their own way.   

Narcissists are draining and difficult to be around for a prolonged period of time. If you have suffered from Narcissistic abuse, you are not alone. It is extremely difficult to realize you've been blindsided and being around this person can be toxic for your own mental health.

It is hard to let go of someone you love if they are a Narcissist, especially is if is a family member of significant other. But at the end of the day you need to do what is best for your well-being and it is okay to leave these people in the past. 

To the Guy Who Reminded Me I am a Unicorn

I was left shattered in pieces after my last relationship. Everything after one year came crashing down before my eyes in one text.

I didn’t know what to believe anymore. Why was I attracting such horrible men? Will I get ghosted again in the future? Am I a bad girlfriend? Am I bad in bed? Did I not see the warning signs? I just couldn’t decipher reality from my thoughts anymore. I was left in a confused daze.

I slowly began losing my sense of self that year, wrapped up in my ex’s manipulative games and lies. I became a shell of person he wanted me to be and was hollow on the inside.

I’m not denying that my ex was a bad person, but I take full responsibility to how I reacted to it. I should have walked away once I realized he was bad news. But I stayed. Because I wanted to see the good in him. And quite frankly, I didn’t even realize how negatively I was affected until I was out of the relationship.

The dysfunction threw my life into a whirlwind. And somewhere within this whirlwind, you showed up. You’ve always been there in the background, but now you came to the forefront of my life.

We’ve always been friends and you showed up as a friend to lift me back up in a time of need. But somewhere between catching up and hanging out and talking a little more than usual, you’re become a more prominent person in my life. I was enjoying your company so much I started to forget I was even heartbroken.

I think I am catching the feels for you, and I think you are catching them for me too. I never saw this coming, it snuck up on me slowly and then bit me in the a**. I love how this journey with you is unraveling ever so slowly but surely. I am in no rush.

Thank you for bringing me back to who I am, a unicorn and for seeing how more than enough I am as a human. I found myself and my worth just by being in your presence. You light up my world brighter than it’s ever been. I am no longer a shell of myself, but a brand new richer version of myself.

Thank you for making an effort for me in ways he didn’t even bother to try. Thank you for seeing me as a special human rather just a pretty exterior. Thank you for enjoying my company and laughing with me.

I haven’t laughed this hard in such a long time. I had forgotten what love felt like for a long time and you reminded me. I remember how beautiful love is, and how it builds you up instead of tearing you down.

I am enjoying all the late nights we spend texting each other, I have never literally laughed out loud to myself so much. I love seeing your name come up on my phone throughout the day knowing that you’re thinking about me. I love looking forward to the next time I get to see you and what crazy adventure we go on next.

I don’t know where things go from here or what we will be, but I am enjoying the ride with you and I will forever be grateful that you came into my life and snapped me out of my distorted past.

My faith in life, love, and myself has been restored.

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