Author: Angelo Caerlang

First, try to understand that their feelings are sensitive. They get affected so easily even if they don't often times make it seem too obvious. They feel things deeply. They share their hearts to everyone when they're happy, but they withdraw themselves from society when they're sad.

Someone who constantly feels lonely isn't trying to be emotional just to grab people's attention. Being lonely isn't something that they wish to have. They'd give their all if only they can run away from loneliness. But the problem is that they can't, because loneliness becomes their creepy companion everywhere they go, whoever they're with.

Loneliness is always just few feet away from them, waiting for the right time when it can enter their personal bubbles. It's attached to them in an invisible thread that they can't cut no matter how many times they try.

Being friends with someone who grew up welcoming solitude in their lives is like learning a new language – it's difficult and strange in the beginning but sooner you'll get used to it. You'll realize that every one of us has experienced what it's like to feel empty on the inside – some of us are just good at hiding it.

When you are friends with someone who has extreme emotions, you have to be always aware and careful of how you treat them. You have to be thoughtful of the words that you're going to say to them, because they never forget everything that they hear. You have to include them in all your plans because making them feel like outsiders is one thing that you should be avoiding at all cost.

Never let the day end without comprising with them when you had disagreements with each other. Don't take them for granted when they're upbeat, when they become chatty, when they laugh a lot, because you don't get to see them living every day with their souls full of energies. Avoid playing with their feeling and assuming that they will always stay with you.

When they're having a bad day, give them the space and time that they need. Know that they have to breathe and be far away from everyone to figure out what's best for them. They need to hear their thoughts well and dig in to their feelings, because that's how they solve their issues efficiently.

Be happy for them when they come back into your life. Update them with everything that they missed out while they were healing on their own. Treat them the way you usually do before they completely shut off everyone around them. Show them that you totally get what they're going through.

Because once you've proven to them that you actually care about their vulnerabilities, they will stick up with you forever. They will consider you as their most trusted ally and the one they will always be thankful for. They will support you when you're the one who needs some help.

They will return the love that you're giving to them. They will hear all your sentiments in life. They will believe in you even if everyone doesn't.

Being friends with someone who's too familiar with the feeling of loneliness will do their best to not let you experience what they are constantly battling. They will give light in your life when you're lost. They will hang out with you when you're heartbroken. They will watch movies with you when you can't sleep at night.

People who constantly feel lonely just want to find home in someone’s heart. They want to be welcomed and be respected by what they think and what they feel. They want to know that someone can relate to them.

They want you to accept them.Make them feel less scared. Stop their thoughts from destroying them. And tell them that they can count on you.

Give them the freedom that they need sometimes. Fill their souls with your love. Inspire them to overcome their struggles

And lastly, let them know that beside you, they can always feel like they belong.

You know that your heart is finally back to you when you wake up in the morning, and don't search for a body that is sleeping next to you. 

When you don't open your phone expecting that 'good morning' text or panic to come home to an empty house. You no longer miss the person who had always been there.

If you stopped spending time hiding behind a bathroom door, trying to dry your tears out, and convincing yourself that you’re going to be fine, your heart has healed.

You've moved on when you can go back to the places you've spent incredible times with your former significant other, and feel nothing. You don't feel any remorse, anger, regrets, sadness, and frustrations. The world has finally stopped spinning wildly out of control.

The negative emotions that heartbreak are no longer weighing you down and relationship fall outs give.

You have taken control of yourself, and you are careful enough not to lose it anymore. You have grown confident to weather any storm that comes along your way of finding love. 

It's like you learned to smile all over again, and laugh carelessly after experiencing a horrible pain.

You have known that recovering from heartache is one of the best feelings in the world.

It feels good to put yourself out there again. It feels good to have casual conversation with someone, to stay up all night somewhere, and not be concerned if you're making someone upset for not going home early. 

And it feels really good to be single. Be like yourself again, without conforming to anyone’s standard, without trying to please someone.

You've got your freedom back, you can finally spread your wings widely, beautifully.

And you deserve to reach places beyond your boundaries, and expand your horizons.

You deserve to feel bright, and to allow yourself to shine. You deserve to find a soul mate that will fight for you and stay by your side. 

With your healed self you'll find genuine kisses and true words of affections, a love that makes your heart feel whole again.

Because you deserve a life with someone who gives you contentment and happiness.

You deserve to heal, to forgive, to put the past behind you, to recover, to start fresh, and to love again.

You are so much better than the person who made you cry, who broke your heart. Those times of dark clouds, and rainy seasons, and stormy weather are over.

You can finally close your eyes, knowing that when you open them, someone loves you exactly for who you are.

One of the worst feelings in the world is when you fall in love with a guy who doesn’t have the audacity to tell you that he can’t love you back. The guy who low-key makes you feel like trash from the inside out. 

The guy who makes you feel embarrassed with everything that you have done for him.

At one point in your life, you might’ve been disillusioned by convincing yourself that if you flirt enough, you can get that man you’ve been eyeing. You allow your confidence to sky-rocket because why not? 

You look fine as hell. Your personality doesn’t suck. You are definitely qualified to date him.

But it doesn’t always work that way. Getting a guy to like you doesn’t require a shiny resume. Although your level of fame and number of followers on social media are a boost to your dating reputation, in today’s dating culture — it’s a lot more complicated than that.

Most guys want their satisfactions to be fulfilled endlessly, and you have to always be careful not to bore them. 

Because then, they’re going to move on to another girl with whom they think they’ll find what they’re looking for. Next thing you know, you’re going home with your shoulders slumped, head swirling with the thought, “Well. I guess he’s not into me.”

And it sucks.

It sucks that you don’t know how to play games with guys who only desire casual relationships. It sucks that you are born in an era when love is defined in a twisted way. It sucks that you are always clueless about how to play it cool.  

You can’t help but think: Is this really the kind of dating world we all live in right now? A world where men identify themselves as hopeless romantics just because the phrase sounds good. 

A world where men always end up saying, “I hate to break it to you, but you’re not really my type.”

He’s just not into you.

He doesn’t see you as someone who can take the role of girlfriend in his life. He thinks you’re too caring. He’s worried that you’re going to be one of those batshit crazy, needy girlfriends. And he doesn’t like that.

He likes someone who doesn’t ask too many questions. He likes someone who’s not touchy, and is on the same page with him about not putting labels on a relationship. 

He just wants the kind of girl who’s chill, and is okay to be dropped like a hot potato whenever he feels like it.

But maybe there’s a blessing in hearing, those words. Maybe there’s something good to draw from, “I’m sorry. I’m just not into you.”

Maybe your life will become so much better than settling for a total loser who’s probably going to end up living alone in his apartment with his video gaming consoles. Maybe you’re worth more than just the moment.

Maybe you will be appreciated by a guy who’s more stable and responsible than the one who rejected you. A guy who will think your questions are all valid, and will not consider you as too emotional.

So instead of occasionally seeking out for guys who will potentially just storm off to a different direction without even bothering to say goodbye to you, perhaps you need to start looking for the one who will make you think, 

“Damn. Where have you been all this time?”

The thought of why good things end still haunt me past midnight.

I wonder why we lost someone we love, why did they have to go away, why did they have to be taken away from us?

I wonder why the relationships we fought so hard had to end. I wonder why someone who we entrusted with all our hearts turned out to be the one who destroyed us. I wonder why we keep falling in love with the wrong person.

How could universe can be so cruel and unfair sometimes? I wonder why we find the person who's meant for us, but we meet in the wrong place and at the wrong time.

I wonder why we fall in love with something, and then eventually hate it.

We can stare at your reflection in the mirror, and admire how beautiful we are, but know that sooner it's going to be replaced by wrinkles and blemishes. Even a bouquet of colorful flowers decays after few days and plants wither without water sustenance. 

I wonder why some of our memories vanish out of our minds after few years.

Why we have to leave the places that we feel safe and comfortable or cry over losing someone and ache for anyone we left behind. 

I wonder why a beautiful day turns into a dark night.

But then I stand up from where I'm sitting, look at the wide stretch of the sky outside my window, and see how majestic the moon that shines above me. I see how it reminds me that there's still a light at the end of the day, at the end of everything.

I see that endings aren't always sad or heartbreaking. I realize that, just like the moon, endings can be beautiful too.

I realize that we lose people so we can learn not to take everyone around us for granted. We need to stop concealing our feelings and tell the people who mean to us how much we love them. 

We need to build the courage to speak up about what we feel and what we think while still have the chance, while we still have time.

Maybe relationships end because they have served their purpose in our journey, and maybe we're meant for something else, something better.

Sometimes, the universe is testing our patience. It's challenging our faith in love. Maybe it's checking how far can we hold on to loving someone who is away from us.

I realize that maybe the reason why our forms, shapes, and sizes change is so we can remind ourselves how much we've grown, and how wise we've become. 

Things wither so we can learn to let go, so we can learn to accept the reality that not everything lasts forever. And holding on to the things that we lost can do us no good.

Good things end sometimes because we're destined for something greater than the ones that we lost. 

The night swallows the day so we can take a rest, prepare for a new tomorrow, and start again.

Endings are created so we can stop, pause, reflect, and see how far we've come and conquered.

I want to hold your face in my hands. I want to see if it’s still the same one I used to fall in love with, and get lost in. I want your face to remind me of who you are, of who we were, of what we had. 

I want to feel lucky that I get to see it again and become breathless because of it.

I want to ask, “How are you doing?” But I don’t want you to tell me “I’m fine.” Because you know how upset that answer makes me. 

Tell me everything that I missed out while we were not together. Speak to me through your deepest core, and reveal to me the smallest details of your days without me.

Tell me about your mom. Give me an accurate description of the weather in your place. And I want you to impress me with the amount of knowledge that you have about the world right now.

Just keep talking. I don’t want you to stop. Because once I start to open my mouth, I’m not sure if I can trust myself with everything that I want to say.

I’m not sure if I can cover up the truth of what I have been meaning to tell you. I’m not sure if this is what you want to hear, if this is what you want to know. I’m not sure if I still have the right to care for you.

Because, honestly, I miss you every day.

I miss the times when I opened my phone and see your name there when you asked me to have dinner with you, and how we used to walk along the busy streets afterward, in search of a star under the blur of a city skyline. 

I miss when you accidentally brushed your fingers against mine and hid the blush that was slowly creeping on your cheeks. I miss the childish fights that we had, and how you ended up to be the one begging for reconciliation.

But I wonder if you miss me the same way that my heart aches from missing you.

I wonder if you miss the sound of my voice whenever I call you to make sure that you don’t oversleep. I wonder if you miss the way I would get annoyed whenever you showed up few minutes late. I wonder if you miss my confidence whenever I ask strangers for a direction.

And I wonder if you still love me… because I want you to know that I still love you.

I want you to know that nobody will ever replace you in my heart because I will always remember that you were the one who saved me when my life was spinning out of control. 

I want you to know that you keep appearing in my dreams because I think about you before I fall asleep. 

I want you to know that it sucks to live every day far away from you. I want you to know that I don’t have the strength to delete the photographs that we have in my phone. 

And I want you to know that I still cry over losing you in my life.

Maybe I have so much faith in love. Maybe I can’t take away the positivity that lives inside of me. Maybe I will always be the person who chooses to see the good over the bad in all situations. 

Maybe my big, soft heart is the reason why I believe that we still have a chance to reconnect one day.

So I want you to please try.

Please try to hope that time will bring us back, try to not give up on the idea of us.

My apology if I didn't give you a warning that I'm quite hard to love.
My apology if I didn't stamp a sign on my forehead that said, "Never Give A Shit." 
My apology if I didn't ask you to stop becoming enticed by my allure.
My apology if I couldn't blend, hide, and try not to be noticed.

My condolences for a part of you that rot when you fell for me.
My condolences for every 11 pm that you kept shedding tears because of me. 
My condolences for the sadness that lived in your heart due to my negligence. 
My condolences for both everything and nothing.

My bad if you felt threatened by my intelligence that I couldn't hide no matter what. 
My bad if you felt intimidated by my confidence that overflowed, and outshone you while beside me. 
My bad if you froze by my coldness that I unknowingly, unaware of. 
My bad if you couldn't stand my loud, energetic ball of energy.

My sympathy for the times you couldn't sleep at night thinking of me. 
My sympathy for still feeling broken, and jaded by my presence that you lost.
My sympathy for a million worth of regrets that accumulated in the depth of your soul. 
My sympathy for your inability to find someone you could replace me with.

I am sorry. I truly am. But I didn't ask any of this.I didn't ask you to come near me. And I hope you get to understand that.

You’ve grown so good at convincing yourself that you will never get the love that you deserve. You’ve been too preoccupied with your doubts that you can’t help but be unaware of how you're icing out anyone who comes near your personal bubble. 

You’ve been looking down at your feet for so long that you fail to see everyone around you. You have mastered the comfort of solitude, independence, and contentment.

But someday, someone’s going to suddenly pop up in your life out of thin air and will try to get to know you. Someone’s going to bombard your inbox with text messages and voice mails that greet you good morning or ask how your day is.

They're going to annoy you, telling you stories, bothering you to share a piece of yourself with them, and persevering in talking to you despite your turn-downs.

This person is going to passionately prove themselves to you just to win you over through their hard-work and patience. They're going to make you bite your cheeks on the inside because you’re trying so hard to suppress a smile whenever they surprise you.

Someone’s going to make you roll your eyes over their cheesy-yet-romantic punchlines and undying words of affection.

You'll sing and dance in the shower because they bring that happiness out of you. They'll become the reason you use the most aromatic body wash in your bathroom’s cabinet. You know, the one that you’ve been ignoring.

Someone’s going to make an effort to make a long distance relationship work. You'll even have confidence that they will never cheat on you regardless of the mountains and oceans that separate you two.

Someone’s going to tell you “I love you” and while you can’t believe it, they will look you in the eyes and promise you that it’s for real. Someone’s going to care about your deep philosophies late at night and listen to your irrelevant rants about that rude passenger you sat with this morning.

They're going to encourage you to do your best at work or to get a high score on your final test or to focus on improving your art or to finish that project you started or to simply be kind to the strangers you are going to meet today.

One day, some person is going to inspire you with his or her monumental faith and gigantic love for Allah or Buddha or God and help you keep your own belief strong.

Someone’s going to make you appreciate the lyrics in every love song you hear and the romantic lines in every movie you see.

One day you will not fear rejections any longer because you know you’ll receive acceptances from that someone, no matter what. One day someone’s going to kneel in front of you, ask you to become their missing half for better or for worse, and sweep you off your feet.

Someday, someone is soon coming your way to change everything you believe in. So be ready.

It is okay if you haven’t found somebody who measures up to the standards you set for your lover quite yet.

There is nothing wrong with you just because you don’t look ‘trendy enough’ or the fittest person in the room. 

You don’t have to pretend to be the person you’re not to get the attention of someone sitting next to your table. 

Don’t feel pressured if all your friends are in starry relationships and constantly upload pictures of them with their romantic partners everywhere. 

Stop pitying yourself for the times that you watch rom-coms alone on Friday nights while checking your phone only to find out nobody even cares to ask how you’re doing.

Someone’s  going to walk in your life and love you exactly for who you are. 

One day, someone’s going to understand your peculiar interests, no matter how odd they may seem to other people. 

Someday, someone’s going to accept your enthusiasms for deep poetic verses you read in a book and for when a lead character in your favorite movie utters a line you can relate to so much. 

A guy is going to find it adorable every time you study beautiful buildings or tear up watching colorful fireworks.

So please refrain from doubting yourself and questioning your worth. 

Because you are already beautiful just the way you are.

Be patient with the walls I built around me, for they were not made to harm you but meant to protect me. 

Don’t give up when I distance myself as you get closer. I still get scared to open my heart and trust again. 

I still carry the heavy baggage from the person that came before you.

Maybe the cut inside my heart was deeper than I thought.

But please keep trying, no matter what, to save me from self-destruction, to break the barriers I surrounded myself with, to understand the demons I fight against.

Give me a reason to get out of the bed every morning even if it is against my will at first.

Show me a whole new world out there that’s different from the regret and misery I’m taunted by. 

Remind me how to smile again and how to cry with nothing other than joy. 

Release the butterflies in my stomach and let them fly there for as long as they can live. 

Love me with that heart that loves God.

I need you to help me see the life I missed while I was searching for my missing piece in the wrong places, hold my hands when it’s raining outside and I can’t help but zone out to the past, and stay with me during the nights I suddenly feel lonely and want someone by my side. 

Bear with me for all the times that I become a huge mess.

But most importantly, have faith that soon I will get better because I promise I will love you with my every molecule.

I will sacrifice my life in your favor just like what Jack did for Rose. 

You always will be my top priority. 

I will take a bullet for you right between the eyes, be your confidante, your knight in shining armor, your most trusted ally, and give you everything you need. 

Our thing is going to be romantic dates on Saturday nights and cuddles with you on Sunday mornings.

I can’t wait to be able to rest my head on your shoulder and calmly listen to all your frustrations and unfulfilled dreams.

If you shiver I will be your warmth. I will kiss you passionately just because you deserve the sweetest lips. 

I want to look you in the eyes and tell you nothing but honesty.

And I promise you all of this, darling until our hairs turn to white and we reminisce the years that flew by.

I’ll stay with you until our tattoos fade on our skins and we laugh every time we see how bad they turned out. 

We’ll turn out exactly like how we criticized our grandparents who can only groove to slow dances. We’ll grow weak and never let go of our hands-on hospital beds.

And just before we close our eyes, we will look at each other one last beautiful time. 

So if you’re willing to love me next, know that I need a little time to fix the cracks in my soul. 

Please be understanding of all my tragedies and please, please, please take good care of my heart. 

I guarantee you that at every end of the day, it’s always going to be a beautiful sunset with me by your side.

Please put your phone down and have authentic conversations with your friends. 

Think about any topic you’re interested in and see for yourself if you’re on the same page with them. 

Life is way too short to feel awkward around the people you surround yourself with.

Ask about updates in their lives, or what’s happening with your common friends, or how’s it going with the pets they love to talk about with you before.  

The thing is, you don’t always get to see them. Everyone loves to excuse that they’re busy with their lives and barely have time to catch up, so why not focus on what is in front of you and stop texting someone who is not there?

Life is short to be awkward with your family members. 

Admit it; you have your few moments when you’d rather spend time with your best friends than with your family — we’re all guilty about it. 

It’s a lot easier to have fun by surrounding yourself with people who are in the same age group and the same level of craziness as yours. 

But there’d be a time when you wish you knew how depressed your sister was when she first had her heart broken. 

Don’t be a stranger to your family, because wherever part of the world you end up or whatever situation you fall into, your family’s comfort is the only place you’ll ever feel home.

Life is especially too short to be awkward with the person you’re dating. 

It doesn’t matter if you’re the first person who texts first or greets good morning or says I love you. It’s not embarrassing if you’re enthusiastic in your relationship with them or if you’re always joyful when you spend time with them. 

Love is never supposed to appear like it’s a game of “hide and seek”, in which whoever shows up a romantic feeling first is somewhat declared as the loser. 

You can't conceal what is inside your heart and not say the thoughts that are itching to get out of your head. 

Don’t take time for granted just because it seems like you have plenty of it that you can bathe and soak with it. 

Even strangers, never be awkward with them either. 

Ask for direction when you’re lost. Help someone as much as you can. Smile back when a stranger smiles at you on the street. 

Engage in a deep conversation with a person who looks harmless and shows interest in you. Fly abroad and attempt to communicate with individuals who don’t speak your language. 

There is still good left in humanity, and the best people in life are the ones you meet in the least expected place or situation.

Don’t hold back and be scared to put yourself out there and build connections with strangers. 

You can learn to improve your confidence and bravery more by rising to uncomfortable social settings.

All in all, life is too short to be awkward. 

Reach out to the people who love you while you still have time to share with them, while you still have the energy to drive to their place, while you still have the chance to see them around you. 

Offer the loveliest words to the one who captures your heart despite the risk of fall outs. 

There is only one shot, a limited timeline, which is given to you to live the life that you wish; to run a life that is wild and free. 

Life is short not be you, not to have fun, not to be loud, and not to be different in this world full of pretentiousness.

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